I have a friend in my office named Joe. He’s a 21 year old motorcycle riding hottie and he did score me backstage WWF passes :).
Over the last two weeks things between us have gone from mildly flirty to steamy. He gets shooed away from my cube on a daily basis,he always has an excuse to touch me (apparently I’m REALLY linty whenever he stops by) and today…
He had been shooed away from my cube and my boss chewed me out for being a distraction. So I eamil Joe …quoted from memory:
hardygrrl: Joe if you get me in trouble again I’m coming over to your cube and giving you the Swanton (a wrestling move where you do a front somersault on your opponent).
Joe: I’d rather you came over and gave me a Broncobuster ( a move where you jump on our opponents ahoulders and basically hump their face).
hardygrrl: Think you could handle that?
Joe: I could handle you anyway you want.
He comes over to my cube so we can go outside and smoke. We’re talking about how incredibly anal my boss is and he asks for my phone #. I give it to him thinking nothing of it.
Come home,turn off the cell phone to charge it. When I turn it back on I see I have a voice mail-and it’s from Joe. He heard that I was going to be @ the bar Friday night and he’ll see me there.
I’m 31 and he’s 21. I’ll admit I think he’s a hottie but…the age thing is not helping. And there is another guy I’m interested in who I know I don’t have a shot in hell w/…and i know because I had to be the yutz who said something to him. Big mistake there. I got the "You’re a nice girl but ain’t going to happen " response. If I do hook up w/ Joe I know it’ll be more a “Screw you if you don’t want me-I’ll show you.” than an honest thing.
And maybe I’m finally growing up but I don’t to hurt Joe. He’s a sweet guy who doesn’t deserve to be in the middle of this. It didn’t help when Joe snuck up behind me,grabbed the back of my chair when I was in it,leaned it back as far as it would go and whispered into my ear…
" I’ve been wondering what you’d look like on your back."
Seriously, I am a big proponent of younger men/older women (kinda have to since I’m with a younger man ;)) and there’s more than one who are 10+ years younger that’d I’d gladly do in a heartbeat. One in particular that’s 11 years my junior.
You’re just hitting your sexual prime and he’s still in his. You know you have things in common with him.
You could always be honest with Joe and tell him you’re just after mindless all consuming sex, but not sure you’re really up for a ‘relationship’ type arrangement.
Have fun (as a guy), if a girl is treating it as light and frivolous fun, so will I. If that’s not what I’m after then I’ll say so.
I say go for it, my friend! Be honest (you know how big I am on that one!), but go have the time of your life… (I need to live vicariously through someone for a little while longer! )
(Oh, and you weren’t a yutz!!! I still think you did the smart thing on that one. Better to know and not get more wrapped than to not know and fall harder)
Part of me DOES want to jump him-trust me on that-but…
I don’t want to use him as a substitute/revenge hump. I’ve been on the other side of that equation before and I know how bad it hurts to find out that’s all you were to someone.
But the slutty side of me wants to grab him at the bar tonight and tell him let’s play “You’re Jeff Hardy and I want to show you what a big fan I am. May I lick Reddi Whip off you for Round 1?”
{{TP}}You are so wise my friend but I still feel like a yutz.
UncleBill?
Do you think he’d be able to show up for work on Monday if I decided to show him just what I can do? At least w/o an oxygen tank and an i.v.?
Hey, don’t overthink it. The guy has the hots for you and you feel it as well. Don’t overcomplicate things and see what happens. Maybe it’s just great, distracting sex and maybe it’s a great relationship. Either way you’re ahead if you both stay honest with each other about your expectations.
So kick back. Don’t worry too much and see if you can carpe some of that ol’ diem!
If we know that’s all that it’s about, we’re almost invariably ecstatic about that. (Hell, we usually don’t mind being used for sex, regardless of what we know or don’t know.)
So jump the kid. As long as you’re honest with him that it’s probably just a short term bit of fun, he’ll consider it a Good Thing. You don’t really have to tell him about the other guy, any which way.
As a big fan of women older than myself, I have to chime in.
<cue background music. “And here’s to you, Mrs. Robinson…”>
Hey, you’re both consenting adults, right? If you’re both attracted to each other physically, mentally and emotionally, and if there are no concerns about getting involved with a co-worker - GO FOR IT! It’s hard enough finding people that you can connect with on those levels without passing them up when you do find them.
Do it. Take the boy home and show him a couple of new tricks. Think of it as the opportunity to train one of us guys RIGHT.
Matt…you kill me And of you want to fantasize about wrestlers go to http://www.msn.com/wwfhotties&naventryid=100…numerous pics of sweet sweet hotties…
Well after a lot of thinking and many emails from various friends…
I’m going out tonight and if he can kiss…I just might go for it but I will be honest and tell him for now I just want to get laid. I’m sure he won’t mind
Go hardygrrl! Just bring your own protection, to be on the safe side. Hope you throughly enjoy yourself! And tell us all the gooey details on your night of gratitious sex.
/hijack/
UncleBill, Maonday?? I can practically here you saying the word “moanday” now. Funny though, I didn’t notice you had a southern accent…Bill’s week…moan-day, twotimes-day, hump-day, thrice-day, try-day, sat-on-his-face day, and (get)some-day. Wait, this sounds fun…Can I spend my vacation with you?
/end hijack/
to you!” to him if you started up with Joe.
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