Hello, some advice please.
I separated from my son’s father when foolieboy was 6 months old. I didnt date seriously until my son was 2. I dated a very nice man, we will call him Bill, for over a year. There was talk of marriage, but eventually I realized it would not work. Bill is a very nice man, but it would be a mistake to marry him. It took almost two months to actually break it off, and I did, with no regrets.
Well, almost none.
Foolieboy took a shine to Bill. Foolieboy and Bill had a great “independant-of-Mommy relationship”. Its been a strange summer. I started dating someone else almost right away, and Foolieboy only asked a few times about Bill. Then my dad went into the hospital, I had to change babysitters twice in a three week period, my new boyfriend went on the road for work for 6 weeks, and suddenly Foolieboy is is coming into my bed at night, crying for Bill.
“If Bill is not your special friend any more, maybe he can just be my friend.”
“I want to invite Bill to my birthday party, Bill is my best friend.”
“I very miss Bill, I would like to go to McDonalds with him.” (Note, while I do take my son to McDonalds occasionally, Bill took him more often. Sometimes without telling me and at a frequency I strongly objected to.)
For the past week, its been daily mentions of Bill. We broke up in April, have had no contact except a flury of emails right after, concerning getting stuff back etc. He does send me emails, I havent responded to, mainly because I havent seen the purpose when I had no intention of pursuing the friendship. My thought is still, no playdates for Bill and Foolieboy, but what do Dopers think?
(And I realize its very much in Bill’s court but he expressed missing the boy very much in serveral emails.)