OK. I don’t usually post about relationshippy-type stuff, but I am wondering if my friends are just being my friends and are basically telling me what they think I want to hear rather than their honest opinion. So, against my better judgment, I turn to you, fellow Dopers.
So my fiancee and I have been together for a year. He has a 4-year old son. We got together last September. Around three weeks later, he was very upfront in telling me that his son and his baby momma were thrown out of their living situation, and had nowhere to go. So instead of letting his child live on the streets, he allowed both his ex and his son to move into his 2-bedroom apartment. I wasn’t comfortable with it, but the relationship was so new that I didn’t feel it was my place to voice any opinions regarding that situation. It was only supposed to be for a few weeks until she got back on her feet.
Fast forward 6 MONTHS LATER.
We dated throughout this odd arrangement, with many plans being ruined by her last minute “having to work late” or some other nonsense that would cause GypsyBoy to have to stay home and watch his son. Admittedly, I did throw an occasional hissy, because I KNEW she was doing it on purpose. Have I mentioned that she is manipulative, crazy, and uses the kid as leverage against my fiancee?
Oh, and she’s 30, btw. :rolleyes:
He was always open and upfront with me regarding her and how he felt about her. He left HER a few years prior because she is a nagging, suspicious, hag of a woman that would accuse him of cheating at LEAST 3 or 4 times a DAY. She would literally SNIFF HIS UNDERPANTS when he got home from wherever to see if he had been fucking around.
She has tried to engage ME many, many times via Myspace (have I mentioned she’s 30?). I refuse to acknowlegde her and I know that burns her ass. She has tried to have HER friends friend ME (my page is private) so they can report back to her. He’s spoken to her about it, and when he does, things usually settle down. I am assuming she gets bored and acts up again. Sending trashy text messages, mushy MySpace comments, calling at all hours, etc. For the most part, he ignores her, but obviously, because of the boy, NEEDS to speak to her sort of on a semi-regular basis. Anyway, she’ll put up these “messages” on her status bar on Myspace knowing that I would see them just by looking at her profile without having to open it. I’m pretty sure they are meant for me, or I’m turning just as batshit crazy as she is.
He moved out of HIS place to move into our place, leaving her there in his old place back in April. She said she’d take care of the rent, yadda yadda. In July she announces she’s going “Back home to live with her momma” because she “can’t find work” here. “Back home” is a 3 hour drive from here. Previously, she was a 10-minute drive away. However, it’s been relatively quiet since she’s been gone, but seems she’s acting up again, with the latest status message reading something to the effect of “funny how life always seems to lead us back together” or some other smarmy nonsense.
I know, I know, just stop clicking, stupid, and you won’t get aggravated. Ignore it like you have been for the last 5 months and everything will be fine. Frankly, I don’t trust her as far as I can throw her, and wouldn’t put it past her to to something so insane that he’d be FORCED, somehow, to go back to her.
Mind you, he says that would NEVER happen, he left her for a reason, loves me, like crazy, and tells me so at least what feels like 100 times a day. But I can’t shake this nagging feeling that she’s up to something. Then again, my last relationship ended so badly that I’m not suprised that I am thinking the way I am. But from the outside looking in, does it sound like I’m being a paranoid freak? Cause I really don’t want to be. I trust GypsyBoy with my life, but it’s HER that bothers me. He’d do anything for his son, and it makes me a little nervous.
Feel free to ask me any questions, btw - I am sure there are some holes that don’t make sense here, but that is the general jist of the situation.
deepbreath Thanks, guys. Sorry for the babbling.