Tim, I apologize for not responding to the first thread when I saw it. I wanted to very much, but I thought it might have been becoming too much ( the thread itself in length). I am still stunned and saddened by what has happened to you and your family. Cristi was a wonderful person. But, she was a person, with faults and all, as we all are. I do remember how fondly she wrote of her “Dianasour” and “Johnzilla” here and my heart goes out to them, you and anyone she held dear to her heart. I wanted to thank you for the kindness of letting us know what is happening and to offer you support, a shoulder to cry on or a place to vent if needed. This site is usually a place for great links or information, such as the advice you’ve been given on childhood grief, though I am by no means any sort to know the value of such advice other than it makes sense to me. It is much like the rest of the world. It can be cruel at times, but in the corners, it can be a very supportive place. I had to come out of my semi-lurk mode to thank you and offer my grief and support. I haven’t gone through what you or your kids have and shit. You all have my respect and wish to be able to help you in some small way though I don’t see that happening, with distance and all. Just please know my heart goes out to you all.
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Good on you Tim.
I can’t imagine what was going through the kids’ minds as they lay on that couch. I’m glad they are strong, smart kids and will deal with this most likely towards the more positive end of the scale. Seems they’ve got a mighty fine dad too, so I guess it’s not surprising.
Please don’t feel you have to post here, but do know that the SDMB is our home, and now it is your home too. There will never be a shortage of support here for you. All you need to do is ask.
Thanks for updating us on how you are doing. I think you’re wise to recognize that the children may need counseling. I can’t imagine how traumatic this has been for them and it is possible that they are still kind of shell-shocked. 
Best wishes to you and your precious children. I know that we will all be happy to continue to offer our support as you continue to deal with this tragedy.
You, John and Diana are in our prayers- mine and Amber’s.
Thank you for the update. Don’t be a stranger.
Much love and heartfelt good wishes,
Emma and Cory
Thanks to all you good people! Chances are that we will move. I’m looking for another house, or apt. to rent. Chances also are that I will be losing my access to the internet, at least temporarily anyway.
Y’know, some people have said that this computer was the source of our (mine and Cristi’s) marital problems. I’ve always maintained that the problem was BEFORE we got the computer. The computer just accelorated the downhill slide. It would’ve happened one way or another anyway. Getting rid of the computer would’ve solved nothing. I really shouldn’t go into more detail than that. I don’t even know why I bring it up. Regardless, if I disappear for awhile, many of you have my email address, and if I lose the computer for any length of time, I’ll still go to the library and check my emails, so don’t hesitate to email me and check on how we’re doing.
So, how did Cristi’s wake go??? I heard mention of it in the planning stages, but I never heard another word about it.
This Sunday there will be a benefit show at the Fenton Road Tavern, in Flint, where I play every Sunday night. This will start at 4:00 PM, and kids will be allowed in there until 9:00 PM. Sooooo… Diana and John will be there to watch ol’ dad play with the band for the first time in a couple of years. They’re excited! I’m excited! It’s gonna be good! Diana is even talking about getting up and singing a song with the band! She did that once before, when I brought my acoustic guitar to play for her kindergarten class. She got up with me and sang a Texas Ruby song that I always sing to her when putting her to bed at night. I’ll report back and let everyone know how it went.
Keep those prayers coming. They’re working! They really are!