Some rough stuff, which I apparently share with most of the people here. I go at it from both sides, but if I have to pick then I pick being dominant. Bondage, role-playing, whatever.
Snowballing, “cumshots” and other semen games.
I guess those two are the big ones, but as long as everyone involved is giving meaningful consent, I’ll try anything once. Well, almost.
Anyway – I’m a switchy sub and enjoy restraints. (This was too much for the nice Methodist boy. It scared him.)
I have an ex who was into approximately everything – he said he had more kinks than a garden hose and a fetish fetish – and there’s a limit to how much of everything I’m willing to put up with without getting, y’know, bored. (And maybe a bit feeling like my role in the relationship could be adequately supplied by a blow-up doll.) (I mean, a little rapturous toe-sucking is okay, I guess, though I’m not interested in it, but when there’s more rapturous toe-sucking and so forth in my sex life than actual sex … it wound up being really damn weird. I mean, setting aside all the really weird stuff.)
Anastasaeon, I was threatened with cat-ear sex once–a mutual friend (the bite-my-nipple girl) of myself and my first sexual (well, first intercourse) partner always threatened to give above mentioned first sexual partner cat ears (or were they bunny ears?) to wear to bed with me if I pissed her off. I played along like it was a horrible fate, and to be honest I’m not at all excited about the idea, but it wouldn’t be that bad. I don’t even see it as trying something out, because I don’t think it’s really its own kink…just something that you leave on your head during sex.
What does “switch” mean? Bisexual? Willing to play both dominant and submissive?
The latter, though you might be familiar with the term “switch hitter” as a synonym for bisexual (which I am, but it has nothing to do with the power thing, of course). I have had difficulty finding someone to accomodate me, though. People want to top, they want to bottom, or they want no part of power play at all. Sigh. There are some signs that this will change soon in my particular life, though.
I like rough sex and role-playing as well, and I have a kink about being asked to do things (the power thing again). It approaches fetish status at times. I also am very into teasing someone to what some may view as extreme lengths.
I’ll have really complex storylines going on inside my head, fantasy stuff, things I know I wouldn’t enjoy RL, but I kind of need the mental images to help me get aroused enough to come. Some of these may be replays of things I’ve seen in porn flicks, but as often as not it’s the same ‘original’ story over and over: aristocratic girl caught by pirates and used and abused by them. I enjoy occasional stints into bondage (I’m the one tied up) and occasional other things (I’m always on the receiving, uh, end) but I don’t want those things all the time - just sometimes, for variety.
Sometimes I want plain old ordinary ‘bread and butter’ sex (I think this is usually called ‘vanilla’ but I like bread and butter better; besides, it’s filling and not merely tasty). I don’t know how people keep from getting jaded if it’s always the same kink all the time.
porn (stories or pictures, depending on mood)
using toys on my girlfriend
watching GF masturbate
sex in public/places where getting caught is a possibility
I really enjoy watching someone else, preferably but not necessarily female, get said girlfriend off
MFF-type threesomes (not comfortable with MMF-types and GF isn’t either, but it sure is hot in movies)
You’re relatively young, so I’ll go out on a limb and venture a guess that the number isn’t very high … in which case, it’s not so baffling. Hang in there.