There was a thread a while back about kissing. Rather than resurrect it, I’m starting this one.
I’ve been thinking about kissing a lot lately. Thinking about how nice that first kiss could be, if things get that far. I’ve been reflecting about how I miss kissing much more than I miss sex.
I miss the anticipation, looking into her eyes and knowing that she wants me too, then our lips meet and our eyes close, and we become completely lost in each other. I miss having my lip gently, or not so gently, bitten. I miss holding a girl close, my arms around her waist, or running fingers through her hair. I miss the feeling of connection.
So tell us dopers, in exquisite detail, what you love about kissing.
I love that feeling * before * the first kiss. You are getting to know each other, there’s electricity in the air, you feel shy and excited at the same time … you smile at each other and wonder, will he or won’t he kiss me? What’s going to happen next? I think that’s the best part.
I’ve kissed quite a few people in my life, but the ones that stand out are when I really felt for the person…there’s no such thing as a bad kiss. I love the seconds right before, when you watch his eyelashes drift downward, when your mouth opens a little, when you can feel his breath, smell him, sense him, and it’s magnified a thousand times. I love the second when your lips touch, and your mouth is just alive with sensation, and you feel all tingly. Then once your mouths get comfortable and you feel so peaceful and content, like you could spend the rest of your life with that person’s mouth with yours, and then eventually when one of you makes the tongue move and it feels so incredible…
Of course, this is an ideal kiss. I have experianced several average or bad kissers, but nothing can compare to those perfect ones, and the intimacy and closeness you feel with that other person.
It’s been such a long time since I kissed someone!
I would add that kissing and hugging are very affectionate and warm. If you are really horny (which, if you are a guy is 100% of the time) you could have sex with someone you don’t really care for but kissing and hugging are something else altogether. They are an expression of affection, if not love,… I do not think I could be affectionate with someone I don’t really like. That is why the affection after sex is so meaningful. (Oh, how I miss it…)
[soapbox]Okay, I’ve posted this before. And I’ve posted it at least twice, though I’m not giving links because, quite frankly, I don’t care that much. NOT all guys are always horny. In fact, I’m not even horny half the time. I’m not horny when I’m asleep, mostly. I’m not horny right now. My father isn’t always horny either. Nor is my brother. Please do not make these kind of generalizations.[/soapbox]
The one lady I kissed . . . it was lovely. I was very nervous and shy and all that beforehand, but when I actually kissed her that disappeared, along with the shyness etc. For all the worrying I did, kissing her was just lovely
A kiss with the right person or at the right moment can be magical. I remember the last kiss I had [about 2 months ago]. That one was wonderful and passionate. Hopefully many more shall arise soon. And hopefully the next person will kiss well.
I miss kissing. It has been waay to long for me between meaningful kissing episodes. Longer than 18 months. Pity me not for I am used to life. No I dont like it, just used to it.
I actually had a dream last night about kissing a girl and it was one of the most intense and erotic dreams I’ve ever had despite their being nothing overtly sexual about it.
I agree the anticipation, however tense/frustrating, is simply amazing and adds to the experience. I agree that kissing is more affectionate and even intimate in some respects.
And the moment when soft lips touch? When you brush lightly against their skin? When you pause - so inimately inside their personal space - and you can smell and almost taste them before contact? The moment where - just after connection - the world fades away? If that isn’t heaven then I don’t want to go.
Ahhh, I am touched. Today has been the best day of my life for other reasons, but this takes the cake. I think I’m gonna cry. I think I have PMS again!
taking a moment
Ok. I’m sorry Anthracite. If I was gay, I would be calling you, honey! I am actually not against the idea of expirimentation, because I know a woman would know what she was doing, but I haven’t met any ladies yet who I am really attracted too.
Homeslice…if you weren’t so far away, buddy. Only if.
Sailor - I have this friend (the one in the infamous MEN thread, if ya can recall) who gives the best hugs. He just wraps you up in his arms and it’s the best feeling.
Kissing is muy important for me, being the big slut that I am, because if a guy can’t kiss, it’s difficult for him to make up for it.
The worst problem is mouth openness and lack of motion. Like there was this one guy who opened his mouth really wide and locked it in place. That was really fucking disgusting. It was like spelunking a cave. What was I supposed to do, run my tongue over his teeth like I was doing dentistry?
Most of the people I’ve kissed, though, have been very decent kissers.
The first emotionally touching kiss I had was when I was sitting with her under a tree, our faces very comfortable nesting against the other, and we just turned our heads ever so slightly, and made contact. One of the most delightful, heart-pounding experience I’ve had so far in my young life, and I will forever cherish it (I think I have a poem somewhere I wrote about it…)
I agree with Sailor, and most posts, that kissing is a very intimate thing. What I love about kissing is that there are so many levels, there are hello and goodbye kisses, passionate kisses, cute, fun kisses, the lists continues.
I love it when my man kisses me, any kiss. My favorite is when his mouth matches mine because it is so connecting. Deep kisses are wonderful. I love all kisses because of the connection it gives you with another person that no one else can share. No one can get into your kiss.
