I used to be one of the worlds best (worst?) flirts. It didn’t seem to bother my ex husband. However, like Indygrrl, my past behavior is about 180 degrees from what I would do today. I only have eyes for my husband now. Even something resembling flirting with another man makes me feel creepy now.
Just imagine how the guy feels.
The behavior described in the OP seems vicious and manipulative to me. I think if you have to manipulate one another to get what you want, the relationship probably isn’t very good.
Hubby does have a couple of close friends who are flirts; they flirt with me, I flirt back. But it’s all play and everyone involved knows it. If I every got the slightest hint from hubby that it bothered him (and he’s not the type to keep something that’s bothering him bottled up), I would stop immediately, out of respect for him.
There are pretty much only two ways to consider this situation
- There is an elaborate sexual game at foot. The fact that he looks uncomfortable signifies nothing. Humiliation and power games play a significant role in some people’s sexual lives.
- She is a heinous mega-bitch.