Ladies: How Metrosexual Is Too Metrosexual?

In My Humble Opinion
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Okay…so one of my best girlfriends has recently started dating a guy who was introduced by a mutual friend. She talked to him on the phone for a while before they met, and really jived with him, so they went out on a date.

That’s when she discovered he’s “metrosexual.”

Now, I had no clue what on earth that was, so in case you’re living in a similar state of ignorance, apparently it’s a guy who “takes as much care of himself” as most women do. If not more.

This guy goes to tanning booths three times a week, gets waxed, shaves daily what he doesn’t get waxed (so he has zero hair anywhere but on his head), gets bleach-blonde highlights every month, gets manicures weekly…and it’s a given that he lives at the gym and that his clothes are always immaculate and he only buys name brands.

I’m not gonna judge the guy; he seems like a stand-up guy, and he’s charming, caring, got a good job, etc., but I can’t help thinking that’s a little high-maintenance for me. (If I were the one dating him.) My girlfriend was initially kind of put-off as well, but she liked him enough to try to get over it. They’ve been dating now for a couple of months…and their relationship isn’t really my question, as it seems to be working and I’m happy for her.

My question is: What do you think of a metrosexual guy? Put yourselves there. Is it wrong for a girl to want to be The Pretty One in a relationship? I can’t help thinking that if my guy were more manicured than me, I’d develop some sort of complex, like, “Oh god, I can’t forget to shave! I need to get my nails done, too! And my roots are two inches long! Oh crap!” Is it sexist to think that this sort of thing is Girl Turf? I have a feeling it is, but I can’t help wanting a guy who doesn’t care quite so much about stuff like that. Not more than I do, at any rate. (And let me just say that this guy’s got me beat, hands down. My nails are only done when my girlfriends buy me gift certificates on my birthday, for instance.)

What do you ladies think? Am I in the minority?

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I’m with you on this one. If a guy goes to that much trouble on himself, what’s he going to expect from me?

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I like a guy who is put together, but my rule is that he can’t take longer getting ready in the morning than I do. That’s tough for the guy, because I only wear makeup on special occasions, and my hair is straight as a rail, so it doesn’t even get blow dried.

For me, it’s a lot like dating really buff guys. If they spend that much time and effort on the way they look, they probably expect the same thing from me. I’m just not willing to bother.

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Interesting, coming from a guys perspective, I may be a metrosexual…however, the man discribed in the OP sounds like he is a tad in left field. When I met my wife I was in Grad school. She is a complete neat nick and I am more of a functional organizational person. I make it a point to look my best at all times, but leaving a small mess somewhere really never bothered me.
That said, I thought a metrosexual was a man who was extremely in touch with his feminine side, to a point where he related to women in such a way where he could see things - legitimately - from a female and male perspective. Remaining decidedly heterosexual, he may display seeming homosexual tendencies because he is cleaner, put together more, in shape, conscious of fashion etc…etc…Which is different from what most women think a man is capable of doing, and still remaining heterosexual. No?

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Well, it sounds a bit silly to me but the things lots of females do to themselves sounds a bit silly to me too. I’m kind of inclined towards women who don’t shave (anywhere, ever) & don’t own any makeup. Daily bathing and the wearing of clean clothes is good and there’s a grey area but anyone who spends overly long trying to modify their appearance has some kind of hangup.

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I know how to fold a fitted sheet.

Is that too metrosexual?

:confused:

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As long as he doesn’t expect ME to pay for it, I don’t care. Actually, it would be refreshing to see Mr. Kal do something with the wardrobe. I prefer beards and long hair on men, but I’m pretty burned out on his lack of wardrobe sense.

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Is there a proper way to fold a fitted sheet?

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In my book there’s no such thing as being too metrosexual (silly term, by the way).

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I wasn’t thinking in terms of the expense at all. More the hassle. I already don’t have enough hours in my day without having to fit waxings, tanning salons etc. into them.

Plus, I would just get the feeling that a guy like this would be ultracritical of his partner’s appearance and who needs that shit? I have enough problems :slight_smile:

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I hear that!

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I would never judge a man for taking care of himself in whatever way made him happy. I mean, come on. You can’t mess with pedicures; they’re heaven-sent. I have a head full of highlights. How could I criticize?

However.

I’ve never been attracted to pretty boys. Be clean, get yourself a good haircut, invest in some decent hair gel, and try to keep your nails clean. Done and done.

My husband’s default outfit is jeans and a 1995 Depeche Mode concert t-shirt with Doc Marten sandals. Sexy!

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Huh. I had heard an entirely different definition for metrosexual: straight with gay mannerisms.

I don’t fit into either definition, by the way.

Not that anybody asked.

I’ll be going now.

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Urban Dictionary’s Definitions of Metrosexual

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This is a bit much for me. The things I love about men are the things that make them different from me. I love hairy chests and legs and etc. :slight_smile: I think I, too, would develop some sort of complex and feel like I always had to be perfectly groomed… which would make me crazy/ier. So I guess I probably just wouldn’t be attracted to that type of man, although I don’t really find anything wrong with it. Just not my thing.

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It sounds like this metrosexual’s grooming and exercise routines would take up a lot of time… and something’s gotta give. What does he do for fun and intellectual stimulation? Is he a “post-literate” non-reader? How well does he maintain his home? Are things relatively neat, clean and uncluttered there? If you live together or get married in the future, would he do his fair share of the housework and marketing?

And why exactly would a man feel compelled to shave/wax his chest and legs? Was he ever a competitive swimmer, and does he have difficulty letting his hair grow back, or what? Do you miss the chest & leg hair, and if so, have you let him know that you find such natural body hair sexy in a man?

Would you characterize this man’s personality as self-absorbed, materialistic, shallow, or narcissistic?

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Yes.

Form the fitted sheet into a fairly flat wad, avoid creating high spots. then place at the bottom of the folded flat sheets.

I just wonder how someone who spends so much time primping himself (herself) has time to spend with anyone else. It’s one thing to wear good clothes and keep yourself nicely groomed, it’s something else to have 10+ hours of grooming on your schedule every week.

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One more thing: the tanning booth addiction? Not good. That metrosexual guy’s going to be living in Melanoma City in a few years, if he isn’t there already. Have you discussed your concerns for his future well-being yet?

Perhaps he’s averse to body hair so that he can monitor his moles and spots better? Or is he in a state of total denial vis-a-vis the cancer risk?

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My brother-in-law is metrosexual, though not nearly to the degree of this guy. It works out really well for my sister. He’s really into decorating the house, buying all the kids’ clothes, etc. He’s even been known to buy clothes for her. This seems to work for them. They’re both happy that way.

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My brother definitely fits the bill of “metrosexual.” He spends more on clothes that any person I know, of any sex. His hair is perfect, he’s fit, attractive, extraordinarily neat…

Really, I don’t see why some people bug out over this. When I was dating I had only a few requirements beyond the standard sense of humor/good job thing:

Not a slob.
Decent fashion sense.
Healthy, physically and emotionally.

In other words, someone who, like my brother, takes pride in his appearance, responsibility for the order and cleanliness of things, and takes care of himself. Yeah, he has done the highlights in the hair thing, and hey, he looked good when he did.

I mean, he’s what so many women claimed they wanted - a self-sufficient, confident man, sensitive enough to be in touch with the possibly less-masculine aspects of life, *and * straight. My brother will go shopping! He’ll watch Sex and the City. He’ll go out drinking with his friends, work out at the gym. He’ll kick someone’s ass to defend your honor, and then watch Pretty Woman with you to cheer you up.

I think it’s pretty cool.