First off, before we get into this thread, let me just say this thread should NOT be taken too seriously.
I was having this conversation with some pub friends the other night.
Boyfriends, husbands or established partners obviously wouldn’t count.
In this hypothetical, you’re single and the guy you’re calling “sweet” is single.
What is the likelihood, you actually want to have sex with this guy?
My friends and I came to the conclusion that first of all, whenever some one calls you sweet, it should be taken for what it is, a compliment.
However, after a few more beers, we also concluded that there’s no chance in hell said girl want to “bone” said guy. It simply means: “I like you, but I don’t like you in that way.”
So what say you ladies? I’m also making a poll to this silly question.
“Sweet” is usually used in a condescending* way, from what I’ve seen. It’s like “cute.” Dogs are cute. Desserts are sweet. Boneable men are hot or handsome.
*sometimes unintentionally, but it’s still condescension
Tone of voice says it all. Sometimes it’s along the lines of the Church Lady’s “Isn’t that special” and sometimes it’s flirty. For me, the tone of voice would either mean I dismiss you or I’d like to get to know you better, but the word itself has nothing to do with getting nekkid together.
In my experience, it depends on how much of the breasts are exposed. 1/3 or more exposure, she calls you sweet, pretty good chance, like really good. Completely covered, forgetaboutit…
I think I mis-answered and should have said “sweet” and “wanting to bone” have nothing to do with each other, because now I can see myself saying things like, “You’re really sweet, but…”
But I usually don’t mean it like that. If a man is appealing to me, being sweet is usually included in the list of reasons I’m attracted to him. If I actually say to a man, “You are so sweet!” and mean it enthusiastically, it’s because I really like him and am letting him know. If I tell my friends “he’s such a sweetheart!” I really like him and am letting them know.
Every Waffle House waitress calls every male customer “sweety”. I have never seen one take a male customer to the back room (or take him on the counter, either).
Interesting. “You’re so sweet.” is the exact phrase that got us to talking about this. (This exact phrase was said to one of the guys in my group by another female bar patron. So of course, being the juveniles we are, we made fun of him. In a friendly way that guys do of course.)
Ya see, to my ears, that phrase sound so patronizing. My brain usually hears it as “You’re sho shweet.” Complete with bottom lip puffing out.
Well, it depends on the tone of voice. If it’s said in a syrupy, patronizing, or “crap, I have to let him down gently” tone, it’s not good. If it’s said happily while beaming with love in her eyes, it’s good.
I noticed recently that the 20-something waitresses at the local sports bar & grille had taken to calling me “dear.” Time to lose the (mostly gray) beard.
