The idea that talking about the real world risks involved in an activity should not be done because it might make the people doing that activity feel bad is (to me) absurd. The notion that I am somehow, kinda, sorta empowering the bad guys by telling women to be aware of the risks involved and to possibly modify their pic sending behavior based on what shitty people might do in the real world is an awesome rhetorical ju-jitsu. Seriously, I’m going to need moment!
I didn’t say anything at all about not talking about risks, did I? You asked a question and I’m trying to answer it.
The questions at the bottom weren’t rhetorical. If you don’t mind, and all.
Yes… that’s it. Telling you not to send pics of yourself spread eagle or on your knees with a big cock in your mouth is tantamount to telling you not to trust men. That’s the message.
Why stop at this? Us ladies should stop giving blow jobs altogether. This option makes the most sense, as it preemptively punishes men for being the kind of asshole who would disseminate compromising pics of us sucking them off.
Win win.
Well, you can give blowjobs to nice guys.
Seems like the pictures you mention would probably have been taken by the man. Which really makes me wonder: why are we even framing this debate in terms of women “sending” men pictures? A good number of these women would presumably be better served by the advice “Don’t ever let anyone else take naked pictures of you.”
Good lord there’s some stupid in this thread.
If you want to stop misogyny here, cut out deeply unpleasant, false misandrist statements like that.
How would this lead to any of those things? There are literally millions of women who have their naked pictures online, plenty of them on their own Tumblr pages or whatever, and there’s no reason to think it exposes one to risk or humiliation. Unless you like shaming them for that, because in general it’s not men who have a problem with women being sexually active.
So stop calling them that. Again, that reputation comes from other women in the main part.
How long have you been dating me? Does I seem like the sort who would steal? In short, do you know me well enough to trust me with it?
Depends, again, whether you know me well enough.
If there’s a threat of violence, yes, she’s stupid for not trying to get away. Or he, don’t forget men are pretty likely to be victims of violence in that situation.
It’s just as stupid as leaving your door unlocked and trusting that no-one’s going to steal your stuff. You don’t do it, unless you know there’s someone trustworthy in there.
At minimum, we are observing that she was wrong to trust him to continue to respect her wishes after they broke up. In general, if someone betrays your trust, you were wrong to trust them. Whether it’s stupid or not depends on whether they showed themselves as trustworthy or not. Clue - someone who expects you to send you naked pictures when you’re not comfortable with it is not trustworthy, and not someone you should be with.
It’s not victim blaming to say someone was stupid to put themselves in a risky situation, it’s victim-blaming if we say that the person who put the pictures up (or whatever) isn’t guilty because of the victim’s actions. No-one’s said that.
No, just stop giving blowjobs to men who take pictures you don’t want anyone to see.
hey, you know how I can tell you haven’t read this thread?
I already made that joke.
But when they take these pictures, don’t break up with them. Because that’s just asking for trouble.
So… it’s a woman who posted these pics and attempted to ruin this woman’s life? Maybe you should read the linked article.
Good questions. What are the answers?
Do they know you well enough to trust you? Why or why not? If they turn out to be wrong for trusting you, does that make them stupid?
But women can misjudge. Nah, I think it’s best if we just stop with the BJs. Everything was all right before we started giving those.
I feel like your username, and how it came to be, might somehow be relevant here. 
You know how a lot of the time, incompetent people don’t know they’re incompetent? Well, it turns out comedy works the same way.
Food for thought!
You’d be wrong, as I have read it.
No, it’s women more often than men who get judgemental about other women’s promiscuity. Most men don’t care (except when it’s their partner cheating on them).
Ultimately, that can only be decided on a case by case basis. I have female friends who can, and do, trust me, and they’re right to do so - but I don’t expect anyone to take my word for that. Maybe you’d take their word for it, if ever we were acquainted. But, if you did trust me on nothing but my word, having not known me any length of time, then yes, you’d be stupid.
Go for it. I’m sure I can find some nice young man to suck me off. And if not, well my right hand still works.
I’m not sure why yo think I’d disagree with this. The whole point of this thread is that, if you don’t want it to be known that you’ve done something, don’t do it. If you don’t want a picture or video of you giving a blowjob to appear on the internet, then not giving any is a good way to achieve that.
Umm…cite?
Ummm…relevance to the OP?
Ummmm…cheating? What’s that got to do with anything? You saying that she cheated and therefore deserves the fate she received?
Then your assertion above was most laughably entertaining. Jolly good show.
My cite is the world around me. The relevance is the idea that this is somehow a(nother) problem entirely caused by men, on the whole, being evil. The cheating thing is relevant because the only time a bloke really cares how many people a woman’s slept with is when it’s how many she’s slept with during their relationship.
All of which is obvious, and shouldn’t need stating.