I’m sorry, lunasea, I was not intending to berate the people who have responded to this thread. Quite frankly, I haven’t seen anyone respond to the OP as jb_farley wanted - everyone is noting hygiene & personality issues, and trying to be as reasonable as possible on physical issues (for instance, your only physical restriction was on the person not being shorter than you - not hard to fulfill, and usually guys prefer the same situation anyway) What I did notice was the minute anyone even hinted that a trait was not desirable, someone would be hurt, even though I could probably find a thread on how wonderful that trait is.
zyada, i understand where you are coming from. sure, if one’s only point in bringing these things up it to hurt other people, then one is a complete phallus.
however, since these are not directed toward anyone in particular, and nobody has said “If you are under five two you are a worthless person” then I could actually care less if people are insulted. i mean, i hope that nobody does take this thread personally, but if they do it is the result of their own thin skin and not my, or any of the other posters’, responsibility. (which is not to say that it’s not our concern- if anybody asked to stop this becuase they felt really bad about the postings, i would seriously consider it, and probably e-mail them privately to explain the motivations behind the thread)
seamless segue, what are my motivations? i am a male, who tends to pinch hit for both teams. haven’t had an at bat in a while though. i was neither trying to support my own feelings of inferiority, nor put anybody down. I was simply asking a question that i have no answer to. (to which i have no answer- ed.)
i am not a female. i don’t know how you crazy females think. i don’t have a very good grasp on what turns you ladies on or off. as for people “trying to be as reasonable as possible on physical issues”, this is about sexual feelings and attraction. reason has nothing to do with it.
it seems that you would rather live in a world where no ill is ever spoken, where everyone loves one another before they even meet, and where extreme niceness prevails. that is a very good hope to have, but the world (and this board) are currently years away from that (maybe 10 or 20). is this thread for you? well you said so yourself. I respect that position, but ask that you either don’t read further posts, or not try to psychoanalyze the respondents.
everybody has things that they don’t like. i was simply trying to find out what.
jb
p.s.- for the record, I am not too hairy now, but i think i am well on my way (getting hair on shoulders- iickkk). my chin is a bit on the pointy side, but not leno-esque. i am 6 foot 2 to 6 foot 3. i bite my fingernails constantly. and i smoke.
This was exactly why I was reluctant to answer in specifics at the beginning of this thread. Sigh 
Bear Nenno, please forgive me. I was only talking in generalities, and I meant only as a first opinion kind of thing. If I get to know you, and like you for you, how hairy your chest is or isn’t wouldn’t matter one whit to me. I tried to make that plain. Obviously I failed at that.
jb, I am not upset with you, I believe you were honestly trying to get some answers from us, which I honestly tried to provide. I am sorry that anyone was offended by any of it. And thank you for telling us a bit about yourself, I was wondering. Personally, for myself <if I was in the market, which I am not> the only thing that would be a turnoff for me is your smoking. I have lost far too many people to those D*** things. Never again.
<backing quietly out of the room, not wishing to further hurt anyone else’s feelings>