I’m interested in the responses regarding this hypothetical man. Let’s say his personality, education, employment, etc. are all in order. In the non-physical areas, he’s an ideal match for what you personally value in a serious romantic relationship*.
Physically, he’s a proportional giant**. He’s healthy; there’s no gigantism. Picture a healthy/athletic build - not too beefy nor too lean. He’s not a Manute Bol or an Arnold Schwarzenegger. Let’s say he’s 7’2", muscular - not lanky, well north of 300lbs, and has a fit body fat percentage. Somehow his heart can cope with this, and doctors assure him he’ll have a long and healthy life as much as the next man.
Assuming he’s otherwise an ideal match, how does his body factor into your thoughts about him as a potential match? Is it a non-factor? Is it a significant plus? Are you put off by the idea of him towering over you and everyone you know?
don’t fight the hypothetical; you’re single for the purpose of the thread
** I said proportional. I’d like actual responses mixed in with the dick jokes, please.
Yes, I’d be attracted to him. I like a nice, big, muscular body- ala Patrick Warburton or Mike Holmes. However, I have learned from experience that someone much taller than me just isn’t a good fit in bed, angle-wise. Also, while no woman wants a pin-dick, a huge one is just as bad. That shit hurts, and pain is not pleasurable (usually). So, to sum up- yes, I’d lust, but it would be from afar.
No, I would not be attracted to someone 7 feet tall. I’m not attracted to tall or bulky men even within the normal range, I prefer shorter men with swimmers builds. My husband is the tallest man I’ve ever dated and he is national average 5 ft 10. I’m 5’2". Knowing you could never walk together comfortably or kiss without a stepladder would make the whole thing a nonstarter, much less a 2 ft height difference during sex.
By that I mean, his physique as you described it would not be a deterrent to me. If he has dark hair and light eyes the odds increase that I’ll be attracted to him. Nice speaking voice? (Did someone say Patrick Warburton?) That’s more for the “Pro” column.
Without actually spending time with him I can’t predict whether I’d tire too quickly of others’ remarks about “how’s the weather” or “Mutt and Jeff.” That seems possible. But if we were really happy together I’d like to think I could work through that.
I’d be attracted to him, but I probably wouldn’t pursue a romantic relationship. I once had a boyfriend who was 6’8". I’m 5’2". That was more than awkward enough for me. As Alice mentioned, the angles are hard to work out.
I tend to like large guys but not beanpoles, so I’d be more likely to fall for a proportionate giant than for someone equally tall yet very thin. Neck cricks would be a problem, though (I’m 5’4").
I was married to a guy nearly that tall. He was a foot and a half taller than me, and proportional like the OP specifies. After a while he didn’t seem overly tall to me, but everyone else seemed short by comparison.
I definitely found him attractive. I only divorced him because he was a dick.
I actually played on a softball team with a man 7 feet tall, and I found him very attractive. I think that was more for his personality than for his physique, but it was far from being a non-starter.
I would say that for me, height moves from a plus to a consideration somewhere around 6’6". That’s just a guesstimate, but wherever that line is where your options for clothes, housing and automobiles begin to be seriously limited, and the concern grows as you move into “all things must be customized” territory. it would be a pain, for instance to need two different heights of kitchen counters. I never asked, but always wondered how he found a comfortable bed. I’d say moving down the scale it happens again around 5’1".
But again, it’s just something to be taken into account, no more of an issue than, say, living more than a 1 hour drive from my home. It’s nothing that would stop me from moving forward if I was interested for other reasons.
The tallest man I’ve ever actually dated was 6’8" and there were occasional inconveniences, like him being uncomfortable in my car, or having to ride roller coasters alone. Nothing you really had to think much to work around.
It would take getting used to, but I wouldn’t rule it out. I’ve dated a fairly wide range of heights, although all three of my LTR’s, including my marriage, have been with men pretty close to my height. I’m 5’6, they were 5’5’, 5’10’ and 5’9’. Attraction is a strange animal and while I could swear up and down that I am only attracted to a certain type, someone completely opposite can totally take me by surprise.
No human being has ever grown to 9 feet tall. Robert Wado, the undisputed world record holder, was only 8’11". There aren’t even good but contested reports of people taller than that.
Hell no. Terrifying. I’m not even attracted to normal men in the 6’+, 200 lb range. That is double my body weight, and it’s a huge turn-off. I prefer average height and thin. Though my boyfriend is 6’, which is awkwardly tall for my 5’5"- but he only weighs 150ish. He still looks enormous next to me.
No. I might gawk at his awesomeness, but that’s it. I’m 5’ 2" and don’t swoon over tall men. As long as they’re a bit taller than me, at least by a couple-three inches, I’ll take the ‘shrimps’ tossed back in the dating pool by all those tall women.
I’m not sure. Okay, Shaq is 7’1 and he’s not hot or anything but he’s not freaky looking really. So a hot Shaq? I guess so. He’ll have to buy me a bigger bed though.
I wouldn’t rule him out entirely but… really, anything over 5’10" starts to be a negative for me, and frankly, I’m attracted to shorter men than that. I’m willing to overlook significant physical drawbacks, but all other things being equal I’m more likely to choose a man 5 feet tall than 7 feet tall.