I’m probably going to get hammered for this, but here goes…
I think the concept of engagement rings, as practiced in the U.S., is stupid.
I’m not engaged, and don’t plan to be. And as a lady friend has pointed out, I’m not likely to be any time soon given my attitude on this issue. But here’s what I think.
Engagement rings are an ostentatious waste of money. Yes, I realize we humans live by symbols, but these this ring thing is ridiculous. Way out of proportion. Thousands of dollars for a hunk of carbon. Sorry. No. Won’t.
Certainly, I agree that impending nuptuals call for a celebration and a symbolic statement of some kind. I won’t go so far as to be a counter-culturist and suggest that SHE buy ME a ring. I’ll acknowledge that I should plunk down something to show I’m serious about the girl.
So I would happily spend the equivalent dollars on a trip, vacation, or shared experience of some kind. Or on a downpayment for our house. Something that we can do together to help build a shared history.
Anything other than a freakin’ rock. I won’t do that. Not in this lifetime.
Question to the ladies: would my attitude be a dealbreaker?