Large Breasted Girlfriend.

[Alphagene]

Ahem.

It is for me as well, but keep in mind I can palm a basketball.

From the Breasts thread:

Alphagene
01-05-2000 03:58 PM
Oh I totally agree. But keep in mind that I can palm a basketball.

[Spiritus_Mundi]

My advice:

friend - “I can see why you go out with her.”
you - “No, you can’t.”

[Iguana_Boy]

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I personally guarantee that if you meet the next crude remark with an equally crude reply, you’ll never hear another word about it.
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My God, THespos, it must be a loooong time since you were at High School! Wouldn’t have worked at my old school - maybe that was just my friends though…

That technique sounds like the type of thing that would just confirm what muffin’s mates are thinking, and muffin seems concerned not to give that impression.

Like many of the other posters, I too am a breast man (and am taking an active interest in the “Busty Redhead” thread!) although I will be the first to admit that they can be too big. I once went out with a girl who had incredibly large breasts and I admit that that is probably what first attracted me, although they were not the sole reason I dated her. My first girlfriend had (and presumably still has) the best breasts I have ever had the honour of being introduced to, and they were Bs, so I’m not totally obsessed.

Muffin - if you like this girl - stay with it and just ignore the remarks. Next time someone says “Well I can see why your going out with her” reply “Yes, hasn’t she got a lovely face/gorgeous eyes etc” and wait for the puzzled reaction.

[purrplebear]

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Whoo. I can understand her hesitation in believing it. I have a hard time with that myself, a lot of times. It seems to contribute to a lower self-esteem, believe it or not. All the models have A- or B-cups, and tiny waists (and no curves, and frequently ugly faces, but that’s off-topic). People say they like big breasts, women say they want them, but…

Men do tend to ogle them. I have literally had to tell some males that ‘they don’t talk’. I’ve even gone so far as to pretend to name them and introduce them to men who insisted on talking to them. Now, I have no problem with being looked at - I like it. My cleavage is there to be attractive, as far as I’m concerned. But it’s not the only thing I want them looking at, and it’s upsetting when they do that.

It also makes me feel less … human? Than other women. See, there are more than one kind of self-esteem. My body is fine, and I’m fine with it. I work out with dumbbells, I dress well, and I’m happy. But it’s the self-esteem about me that I have problems with sometimes. And men who can only look at my breasts don’t help that, in any way. It’s hard to see your own worth when other people can’t see past the bosom to the heart underneath.

The fact that you can, and do, see your lady as a woman (or girl, considering both (assuming) your ages) is a wonderful thing. Make a point of it. Tell her the other ways in which she is beautiful to you.

As for everyone else, you can feel free to call them on their shallow natures. Call it outright. Tell them about her beauty in other ways - spread the word, so to speak. You never know, maybe they will start to see her - and you - in a new light. Of course, that’s the brutal up-front method which could cause arguments and such. You could just talk about the good things about her without calling them shallow and avoid that part (I’m confrontational sometimes). grin

-Elthia

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Elthia. I have to agree with you here. I, too, have been ‘blessed’ with large breasts. (If you must know, after losing 30lbs, I am now down to a DD cup. Sigh) I keep wondering when the blessed part is going to happen. It really does get very old to be constantly judged for your appearance far more than your personality. And, yes, I have a tendency to wear lowcut blouses at times, but that is more a matter of hating anything tight on my neck and what is available to wear than a personal choice to be provocative. I have more to say, but I have to get off this computer now, my time is up. I’ll try to finish this later.

[purrplebear]

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Whoo. I can understand her hesitation in believing it. I have a hard time with that myself, a lot of times. It seems to contribute to a lower self-esteem, believe it or not. All the models have A- or B-cups, and tiny waists (and no curves, and frequently ugly faces, but that’s off-topic). People say they like big breasts, women say they want them, but…

Men do tend to ogle them. I have literally had to tell some males that ‘they don’t talk’. I’ve even gone so far as to pretend to name them and introduce them to men who insisted on talking to them. Now, I have no problem with being looked at - I like it. My cleavage is there to be attractive, as far as I’m concerned. But it’s not the only thing I want them looking at, and it’s upsetting when they do that.

It also makes me feel less … human? Than other women. See, there are more than one kind of self-esteem. My body is fine, and I’m fine with it. I work out with dumbbells, I dress well, and I’m happy. But it’s the self-esteem about me that I have problems with sometimes. And men who can only look at my breasts don’t help that, in any way. It’s hard to see your own worth when other people can’t see past the bosom to the heart underneath.

The fact that you can, and do, see your lady as a woman (or girl, considering both (assuming) your ages) is a wonderful thing. Make a point of it. Tell her the other ways in which she is beautiful to you.

As for everyone else, you can feel free to call them on their shallow natures. Call it outright. Tell them about her beauty in other ways - spread the word, so to speak. You never know, maybe they will start to see her - and you - in a new light. Of course, that’s the brutal up-front method which could cause arguments and such. You could just talk about the good things about her without calling them shallow and avoid that part (I’m confrontational sometimes). grin

-Elthia

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Elthia. I have to agree with you here. I, too, have been ‘blessed’ with large breasts. (If you must know, after losing 30lbs, I am now down to a DD cup. Sigh) I keep wondering when the blessed part is going to happen. It really does get very old to be constantly judged for your appearance far more than your personality. And, yes, I have a tendency to wear lowcut blouses at times, but that is more a matter of hating anything tight on my neck and what is available to wear than a personal choice to be provocative. I have more to say, but I have to get off this computer now, my time is up. I’ll try to finish this later.

[Padeye]

**From the Breasts thread:

Alphagene
01-05-2000 03:58 PM
Oh I totally agree. But keep in mind that I can palm a basketball.

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Damn, I thought I posted my intention to plagarize the remark. I’ll be more careful to cite my stolen quotes in the future.

[purrplebear]

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Elthia. I have to agree with you here. I, too, have been ‘blessed’ with large breasts. (If you must know, after losing 30lbs, I am now down to a DD cup. Sigh) I keep wondering when the blessed part is going to happen. It really does get very old to be constantly judged for your appearance far more than your personality. And, yes, I have a tendency to wear lowcut blouses at times, but that is more a matter of hating anything tight on my neck and what is available to wear than a personal choice to be provocative. I have more to say, but I have to get off this computer now, my time is up. I’ll try to finish this later.
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I’m home now, so I’ll continue.

**It’s hard to see your own worth when other people can’t see past the bosom to the heart underneath.

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EXACTLY. I don’t mind the occassional glance; after all, you are only human. It’s the constant staring and not looking me in the eye that gets to me, and makes me feel of no consequence, worthless except as a pair of breasts put on this earth only for you excuse-for-men to ogle.

Anyway, back to the OP. Muffinman, it says a lot for you that you don’t care so much about that, and that it is her personality that attracts you to her. A very mature attitude for one so young. I have to agree with lswote, Sentinel, GaWd, Spiritus Mundi and Iguana Boy. Well, not so much for GaWd’s poem, but comments. It is very gratifying to find so many guys with this attitude. Vastly different from most of my experiences, unfortunately.

SkySlash, I really thought better of you than that. We cannot help what size breasts we are given by God and nature, but we can do something about our personality and who we choose to be as a person.

[Argeable]

Heh, do you relize this page has only 27 responses, but 673 views, which is more than 10% of the straight dope population…

[Lexicon]

I also have a girlfriend who is stacked like a cord of wood. The only difference is that anyone who meets her knows that I am with her because she is so cool. She kicks much ass, she enchants everyone she meets. Mostly…
Anyway, my point is that if you like your girl because she is great to be with and makes you feel good and you like to be around her, then great.
IF people who are total strangers assume you are dating her for her huge ta-tas then fuck them and the uninformed opinion they rode in on.

BUT

If everyone who knows her assumes you are dating her for her glorious knockers, then you may want to think that 50,000 screaming Elvis fans can’t be wrong.
What I’m getting at is that if all these people think she has nothing more to offer than a great rack, than
A) they don’t really know her in which case see above response.
or
B) they know her and don’t like her and think her pair o’ perkins are her only redeeming quality.
or
C) they know her and like her but honestly believe that her tits are her only redeeming quality.

The thing of it is, if you like her, chalk up the big beautiful breasts as a fringe benefit, and forget all the naysayers.
Your relationship is none of their business.

[Narile]

This one wonders what smurf it would be if it could be a smurf.