A lesbian relative of mine married a man while she supported him financially through university. When it was her turn to go to university she decided to dump him at great financial cost to herself. At the time, she told me she couldn’t stand his immaturity, even though he was a nice enough guy. For years she remained single and then moved in with a female co-worker. After several years of that of course every one was suspicious but who would dare ask? Then she came out. She told me that her relationship with her partner was completely platonic for several years, and their coming together in a more intimate way was a complete surprise to both of them. They are very happy.
Now my wife an I don’t have many close friends, but two of our female friends have mothers who left the fathers afer the kids had left the nest to take on committed sexual relationships with other women.(one each that is)
Also, in my early 20’s I got dumped by a girl for a girl.
It seems to me that young guys have a far better handle on their sexual orientation than girls. Am I onto something here, or am I just projecting on too small a sample.
Oh,and would it be correct that lesbians are anxious for committed relationships more readily than gays, paralleling the straight community more or less.