I’ve heard many gay people say that they knew when they were as young as five that they were different in some way. I’ve also heard gay people (not always the same ones) tell how their parents were also aware of their different-ness, and reacted badly, trying, sometimes abusively, to steer them into stereotypically heterosexual behavior and frantically discouraging them from non-traditional behavior. I even used to know a guy who claimed that the stereotype of a gay man with a domineering mother actually has its basis in families in which the mother senses her son’s homosexual leanings and withholds her affection, or tries to direct his life, or both, in the hope of “making a man of him”.
So my question is, if any of you had a child, boy or girl, who seemed to be showing homosexual tendencies, how would you react? I’d like to think that if I had a child that seemed decidedly gay early on, I would reassure hir that however s/he acts is okay with me, but, knowing that even today, gay teenagers and potentially gay children have a tough row to hoe, I might try (gently!) to steer hir away from going too far away from the norm around hir peers. But then I’d be giving a mixed message, wouldn’t I?
Remember, I’m pulling for you; we’re all in this together.