This of multipart so I’m going to break it up for clarity. I’d appreciate opinions on any or all parts:
My SO and I are practically engaged and open about it to family and friends. We are in the initial stages of planning our wedding, the engagement is no secret. The only thing really stopping the engagement is that I haven’t proposed.
The reason I haven’t proposed, is that I don’t have a ring. I don’t want to buy one in one of the very few stores that actually sell them on the rural island I live on. In order to get a ring I need to get South and be able to shop around for a few weeks. That won’t happen until December when I move down to be with her.
I will be visiting her at the end of August and thought about getting her a fairly cheap* pre-engagement engagement ring and proposing to her. I was thinking about one of those “vintage” looking tarnished silver type rings with all the tiny crystals and a very low profile semi-precious stone.
My thinking is that after I get her the real thing the pre-engagement ring would still mean a lot to us but not really get used. By getting something with a slightly different look, a few years from now I could get her some simple matching earrings and it would become part of a set that she could match to a few different outfits.
- Does this sound like a good idea, or should I wait? I’m trying to balance the excitement of “showing the friends” which could be lessoned, with her not having a sign of my commitment while I’m not with her. Also balancing the disappointment of her getting the el cheapo ring during the moment, though we have been ring shopping and she wouldn’t believe it was the final product there would be a split second of “what?”
- Anybody know the name for the type of jewelry that’s ““vintage” looking tarnished silver type with all the tiny crystals”? I really love the look.
- Anybody have any different ideas what to do?
- Anybody have any different ideas for a fairly cheap* ring that would be versatile for special occasions in the future?
Another thought is to explain to her that I’m not proposing but give her a ring as a placeholder until I get South and really do it right.
*$200-$300 but that’s not set in stone