::: virtually bitch slaps Strainger :::
Everyone’s all about erections, erections, erections. What is this? There’s this very odd view of sex that thinks that it begins when the man gets an erection and ends when the man comes. Aside from being pretty androcentric, it can be rather unsatisfying and stressful, as you’ve noted.
If a man you’re with doesn’t have a hard on, do other things. Kiss. Play with his tits/balls/ass/etc. Have him eat you. Give each other sensual massages. If he’s into it, ask him to use a dildo or vibrator on you. (Or vice versa.) And reserve the intercourse for when he gets the erection back - if you and he don’t stress about it, it will happen.
I don’t know much about it, but if he’s into big-time athletic competition, could there be steroid use interferring with his performance?
StG