She’s never held a job longer than 2 years because she always claims her supervisors hate her. She quit her most recent job 2 years ago and hasn’t lifted a finger since. The promise was, “I can focus on finding a new job if I can do it all day. It shouldn’t take long!”
That wouldn’t be so bad, except she stopped looking completely after about 2 weeks.
And I would actually be okay with that if she helped out around the house but she doesn’t do a damn thing. The most she does is walk in to the kitchen literally 5 seconds after I finish washing the dishes and says, “I was just about to do that!”
She sleeps all day and just watches TV all night. She makes messes everywhere she goes and doesn’t give a fuck. She’s “sorry” after I get angry about it, but otherwise couldn’t care less. She’s destroyed the bedroom by just covering every flat surface in her own dirty laundry, another thing she doesn’t “do.”
She’s a professional gardener but refuses to touch her own yard, so I have to deal with it.
Oh, and she was earning about 50% more than me when she was working, but now we’re just living on my salary.
Her mother gave us $10,000 to fix our kitchen floor (it’s all fucked up, different story), but she’s just using it to live on.
Then last summer she develops OCD out of the blue and suddenly she can’t bear to touch anything “dirty.” And now she wastes $100 a week on disinfectant wipes and rubber gloves that she uses only to incessantly clean her cell phone. I think it’s all just another scam to avoid working.
Yeah, I know, “she sounds depressed.”
BUT I DON’T GIVE A FUCK ANYMORE.
I’m holding up my end of this marriage. I’ve had the same job for this entire relationship. I’ve been loyal and supportive, but my love and kindness are clearly being taken advantage of and I’m reaching the end of my patience. Things need to change around here quick.
We’ve had numerous discussions about it and she always promises to help out more but ultimately nothing changes.
I don’t want to get divorced but I’m running out of options here.
And don’t tell me to stop cleaning up after her, because if I do that, she’ll just pile up her dirty shit everywhere and then buy all new shit to pile on top of the dirty stuff.