My brother had a daughter about 18 years ago. The mother refused to put him on the birth certificate. She moved with no forwarding address about 16 years ago. Since then, my brother has been waiting for the knock on his door.
It came. Sort of. It turns out that she contacted OUR father and was told that my brother was nowhere to be found. The truth was/is, our father is a complete shitbag and knows exactly how to find my brother, knows exactly where he lives and his phone number etc.
She never ended up being able to locate my brother. Now I’ve been given the task of finding her. The thing is, I have no idea what her name would be now. For all I know, she got adopted or name changed somewhere along the line. She never had our name.
I’m kind of shaky on the spelling of her name (young mother, creative spelling bullcrap), I know approximately when she was born, but have no idea where she has been since she was 2.
In other notes, she was visiting us the day I found my dog Jezebel, she of several threads who was put down a few months ago.
In other notes, this all came about because my paternal grandmother is dying. Hospice is there and the entire family who I have successfully avoided for 22 years, is continuing the crazy. My brother went up to say good bye to her. He told me she has pictures of me around her house and frankly, I have no idea what I’m supposed to feel about any of it, except fear that they might find out anything about me.
So dopers. any ideas? Any good sites to check? How do you find someone who wants to be found but damned if you can spell their name?