But true.
Why do tone-deaf guys who can’t read a note of music insist on lead roles?
What a bunch of crap. Priceguy’s dislike of dancing and unwillingness/inability to learn was somehow labeled “ignorance” by you. HE DOESN’T WANT TO DO IT, and says he can’t, which is probably a lack of physical coordination, not ignorance. Just because you did, and it worked for you, doesn’t mean he should. Back off it.
I’m not saying you’re being inauthentic, tdn, if you truly came to enjoy dancing. It’s only inauthentic if the sole reason for doing it is to meet chicks. If you’re also doing it for yourself and your own pleasure, then it’s totally cool. But people like Priceguy and me and Dung Beetle would not be doing it for enjoyment, we’d be doing it just to meet people who like people who dance. That’s encouraging us to be inauthentic. Which is why I said, back off it.
Priceguy, I didn’t dance at my wedding. You don’t have to, if you meet someone who shares your disinterest in dancing, which will NOT happen if you force yourself to dance when you don’t want to. If somehow my husband and I have a kid who wants us to dance at his wedding, I guess we’ll comply, awkwardly and badly. But other than that possible future occasion, there is no need to dance in the course of normal life. I don’t know why this is a topic on which normally nice people become pushy pains in the ass, but it is. Just wanted you to know that someone else knows what you mean, sympathizes, and agrees.
Woah. No, it wasn’t. Please stop misinterpreting what I’m saying.
I’m not pushing Priceguy to dance. I’m just saying it’s disturbing to see someone say “I can’t learn.” We can all learn, if we apply ourselves.
In the general sense, I mean.
Why do you think I’m lying to you? What reason would I have for doing that?
I never accused you of lying! Trust, me, I believe you.
It’s just that the phrase “I can’t learn” rubs me the wrong way. It’s antithetical to the direction I’m trying to point my life in right now.
But please know that I meant no offense.
Then why do you keep saying I could learn to dance?
If you put your mind to it you can learn anything. But of course, you have to have the desire. If you don’t, then you won’t.
You just called me a liar. Read post 202.
Post 202, where you had the imaginary conversation with yourself? I called you a liar in that post?
I think you’re taking this threadlet a little too seriously. I think you (and Rubystreak) are trying hard to find offense where none was intended. And hey, I’m not going to fight you on it anymore. If you’re hellbent on finding offense, no doubt you’ll find it. There’s nothing I can do to stop you. Knock yourself out.
All I am saying – and this is the last time I’m going to say it – is don’t undercut yourself by saying “I can’t.” You cut yourself off at the knees that way. Instead ask “How can I?” It wasn’t accusing you of lying, it was generic advice to adopt a more positive outlook on life, and it was more directed at myself than at you. You needn’t read anything more into it than that.
And that’s all I’m going to say about it. I’m done with the whole dancing topic. I’ve got more important things to do. Like painting swastikas on puppies.
OK, how about SHE will want to dance at your wedding, watch you dance with your kids at their weddings. Not that its necessarily a dealbreaker, but if its something you really CAN’T do, you are going to have to be extra charming in other ways - or find one of the few women around (and they certainly exist) who don’t give a damn about any dance occation - especially the emotionally loaded ones. The problem is that I’m guessing more women do give a damn about this than don’t - so if you choose the second option, you pool of potential candidates is going to go down.
The least you need to do is understand that there is cultural baggage for women around dancing - and not dismiss this as stupid. Women are generally not going to give the time of day to a guy who tells them something they feel is important is stupid - just like a guy shouldn’t give the time of day to a girl who doesn’t respect the things important to him.
No, Brainiac. You called me a liar in post 247. Post 202 is where I posted what you’re calling a lie.
Out of interest, what exactly in this paragraph is it that you imagine is news to me?
Even if you look stupid, the key is, you are risking looking stupid for her and you don’t care.
Also, no other guy is watching you dance, we are all focused on how stupid we look. And all the other women are looking at you and thinking “that guy is great”.
Ah, got it. No, I didn’t.
Learn to distinguish words of encouragement from declarative statements. You’re 180 degrees off in your interpretation.
But not to worry. I will no longer offer you words of encouragement. You can’t seem to handle it.
I’m telling you that I have tried to learn to dance, a dozen times, and failed miserably each time. Each time, someone has said exactly the things you said and tried to teach me, only to fail and eventually admit that I was right. Meanwhile, you keep claiming that I can learn, although you conveniently fail to include an explanation of the preceding, while denying that your statement is an obvious accusation of lying.
You’re probably going to say something about not really wanting to learn. I covered that in post 202. You might saying something about not really trying. I covered that in post 202 as well. What I don’t get is why you and all the others who’ve said exactly the things you’re saying couldn’t just trust me.
I bet this has been said to you, Priceguy, but this is my answer- I do not learn to dance, when I dance it feels to me as if it looks like a bundle of christmas lights tangled up with various farm implements rolling slowly down a long flight of stairs.
However, I still occasionally dance despite and with full knowledge of this. It gets me way more points than it would get a guy who feels like he knows how to dance.
Yeah, like I said I’ve been known to dance too. It takes special circumstances, but sure, it happens. With the former Pricegal it happened with some frequency - in our livingroom, which is crucial. But doing it to meet prospective partners is right out, and any prospective partner who expects me to do it, for points or otherwise, is in for a grave disappointment.
If you insist.
I’m going to go headdesk now.
You do know that’s the third time in as many posts that you’ve implied that’s the last you’ll say on the topic, right? Before the fourth, would you mind explaining how two statements incompatible with each other can both be true, since that seems to be what you’re saying?
I’ve already explained myself. We’re done here.
And we’ve hit four, still without an explanation. Impressive.