The topic on the morning radio program yesterday was dating as a middle-aged person. Tips, advice, etc. A 47-year old woman called to say she was attractive, successful, active, etc. but still was never married. Being single obviously bothered her and she said she had done all the tips for dating offered on the show (take up a hobby, learn to use email, IM, etc., join clubs, etc).
She was clearly searching for a mate but had not yet found one. She seemed a bit baffled by it.
As a middle-aged man (just turned 43) I wasn’t having much trouble dating over the past year. In fact, I’m engaged to be married now. Thanks to the wonders of the internet, finding someone to go out with was pretty straight-forward. On the other hand, I’m successfully employed, not crazy, not living with my mother, and I’m in a city of three-million people. That numbers alone worked in my favor, I’m sure.
I mentioned this radio woman to my GF and she said perhaps this woman worked in a all-female workplace. She mentioned a couple other potential barriers to meeting men, too. Perhaps she looks like Larry King; the limits of radio don’t offer any rebuttal to her claim that she was attractive.
So, to you who are unwillingly single, do you think there’s a reason for it? Are you picky? Are you the only 25-year old living in a town of octogenarians? Do you have habits or phobias or desired traits or something that limit successful dating?
What’s your reason, if you have one, for your singleness and have you made deliberate attempts to change that and increase your chances of finding a mate?