Enough with the acronym-as-reply schtick, deevee. If you don’t have anything cogent to say in or about a thread, then don’t post. It’s jerkish and don’t do it again.
TVeblen
What part of it is jerkish? Just wanting to clarify exactly what deevee’s being warned for here, since i’m sure a reply of an acronym has been done before.
The jerkish part is that deevee has apparently done it so often that it’s become “schtick.”
I skimmed **deevee’**s posts (only 22 pages of them) and could find no times when he/she has replied solely with an acronym.
Well, what does tldr stand for anyway? Maybe that is part of it?
Too long, didn’t read. Definetly a pretty moronic thing to say, which is why i’m not disagreeing - just asking for clarification, since “that’s a mean thing to say” wasn’t given as the reason.
The problem with the behavior is that it’s a rude little piece of business that amounts to saying the thread was too long and boring to bother with. The problem isn’t the acronym; it’s the jerkishness of barging into a thread just to announce he hadn’t even bothered to read any of it.
Nobody is forced to read threads. It’s stupid, not to mention annoying, to bust into threads just to announce one hasn’t read them. It’s a pointless hijack. So X was too bored to read a thread. Millions are riveted by the information.
If he didn’t bother to read the thread then he shouldn’t have bothered to take a dump on it.
Veb
Um…maybe the definition of holographic refers to any informal will not dutifully witnessed?
(Actually, that’s a very good question. But then again, this is Sampiro’s mom we’re talking about. I’m sure there’s a very good explanation…and I’m dying to hear it.
Alright. So we’re allowed to say tldr (or equivalent), as long as we then follow it up with words on the topic? It’s the just walking in, announcing that you can’t be bothered to read the thread, and walking out that’s warning material?
Also (I keep forgetting to say) sorry for the hijack, Sampiro.
Considering that the primary rule for this board is “Don’t be a jerk”, I would say that is a fair assessment. It is rather rude, to yawn and say you were bored and didn’t listen, or the message board equivalent. If the topic bores you, why post to it in the first place? The only reason could be to cause the speaker/poster upset by saying they bore you. And, might I add that it’s rather egocentric to do so as well, though YHO may vary.
On topic, I hope you and your family get through this crisis with sanity intact Sampiro. I’m sending good thoughts your way. I also think maybe you should get a lawyer to spell out to her just how much the state will take if she dies without a will, it probably would get her to take action. I will send good thoughts, and hopes that she will come round to good sense on this matter too.
As I understand it, a holographic will must actually be made out in your own handwriting to be valid. Even then it has to be probated.
I confess I had no idea what a holographic will was either. All I could picture was Patrick Stewert in his Napoleon uniform.
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The acronym isn’t the problem. My apologies if my post on that wasn’t clear, Revenant Threshold. But what can someone say about a topic they haven’t even bothered to read? I could see, say, if it was a solid mass of prose: no paragraphs, no capitalization, etc. Posters can and have posted to note that such posts were very hard to read. Fair enough, and actually probably helpful. Sometimes just a smiley is used as a response. That’s okay too.
That wasn’t the case here. Just waltzing into a thread to announce it was too long and boring to bother with is jerkish. The problem is going out of the way to hijack a thread just to dump on it. If deevee scanned the OP and decided he didn’t want to read it he should have just skipped it. We’ve never tolerated in any forum posters hijacking threads just to announce they didn’t read them. It’s annoying as hell to other posters. Who wants to read a roll call of people who didn’t bother to read a thread?
Does that help clear things up?
The confusion probably stems from you telling deevee to stop his “acronym-as-reply shtick”. That seems to mean, quite clearly, that at least part of the problem is that the entire reply is an acronym, and that deevee has done this several times before.
I suspect that doing in a thread about someone’s dying mother plays a sizable roll, as well. I do wonder, though, if the thread was so terribly difficult for deevee, if they’ll come back to get the warning.
Anyway, best of luck to you, Sampiro. Hope your mom hangs in there for a while longer, but whatever happens to her, I’m sure she’ll manage to pull it off in whatever fashion will be the most personally inconvenient, uncomfortable, and/or embarassing for you.
Pretty much, thanks. I’m still uncertain as to whether I could say “tldr” but also add something else afterwards and not be warned, though. Sorry for being a pain on this.
After re-reading my warning, I think you’re quite right, Priceguy. My apologies; I wasn’t clear enough about the actual offense. The pointless hijack aspect seemed so obvious that I promptly muddled what I wrote. I’ll be more careful in the future.
Veb
Sampiro, Here’s hoping that your mother pulls through this okay. My personal feeling is that she’s much too ornery to pack it in just yet. I hope my feeling is right and that she’ll be around to exasperate you and your siblings for quite some time to come.
As to your other questions -
1.) The Mortal Remains - the only answer to this one is to get your mother to state unequivocally what SHE wants. If that proves too difficult, at least get her to agree to what she doesn’t want. After that, whatever Kathy wants is okay as long as it hasn’t been ruled out.
2.) Trading Spaces - this actually sounds like a pretty good deal, which means that I would be very suspicious of it. However, if your mother is okay with it, get it in writing from Kathy so that she can’t change her mind or misremember the details when push comes to shove.
3.) Loss of Separation Anxiety - no good answer here. If the condo is still de jure your mothers’, then the first time she and Kathy cross swords you may be pretty hard-pressed to maintain that one hour, different city buffer zone.
And finally, your mama really needs to get a will. I second what others have said regarding having a lawyer spell out the details for her. Or you could tell her that the last chapter of your book will be about how your intelligent mother died intestate and left 1/3 of her worldly goods to the state of Alabama and 2/3 of the remainder to her two oldest children. Perhaps the thought of having this oversight (to be charitable) chronicled will goad her into getting something legal and binding onto paper.
“Life is pleasant and death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.”
~ Isaac Asimov
This probably won’t be helpful, wrt the problem of keeping Mama from moving back to B’ham, but it might be worth thinking about: manipulate the system into keeping her in town (Stilt-Houseburg).
Let’s say you find some kindly teenaged lad living in Mama’s and Kathy’s neighborhood, who’s willing to take one for the team. you send him a modest emolument, he pays Mama a call and contrives to get himself bitten by the obese canine. That’s gonna call for a mandatory quarantine of up to ninety days in some jurisdictions, and surely Mama’s not going to consider moving back to Birmingham if she can’t bring her little Snookums, is she?
Conceivably, you could arrange to have this done as few as four times a year, and keep your new home blessedly Mama-free in perpetuity.