I have always felt that the great division between heterosexuality and homosexuality makes the two sexualities more divided than they originally would have been.
We are quick to typecast different cultures, styles and attitudes, to reach a certain standard. Being straight is not only about attraction to the opposite sex, it’s a culture in its own might, and all other sexualities are opposing that.
If we would not label ourselves so much, would not love be more free? If there wasn’t so much stress on belonging to a certain lifesyle, I believe we would experience more experimental sexual lives, since it would not affect our outer apparance as much. Much less inhibitions would be around.
Well, I’d say that they oppose and differ, depending on how you see it. I feel as though that straights and gays are treated as two different groups, since sexuality is given so much focus in our society, and that that in return polarize the groups almost absurdly much. With no expectations on how either side should behave, or speak or dress or so, there would be much more freedom to either side. That’s the way I see it, anyway.
I don’t mean that I’m looking for a bi world, but just a place where sexuality isn’t that much of a deal, and doesn’t necessarily have to come with a whole identity.
Also, I would appreciate it if you didn’t roll-eye me, I find that derogatory. Thank you for the comments!
I know more straight people who think that what supposed “common straight culture” exists is eyerollingly dim than who belong to that culture, actually.
Are you asking if there wasn’t a stigma attached, to at least some extent, with homosexuality or bisexuality, etc., would people be more likely to experiment sexually? If you are, I can see that being plausible. Not sure about the magnitude of change, though. I played doctor with a female friend on more than one occasion, growing up. I also was often a “boy”, with my guns and sheriff badge, and sometimes in the doctor scenarios. I did have a lot of problems the year I was Batman, but my parents, and especially my grandmother (who was buying my Halloween costume, under much protest), got over it.
I realize some people don’t have a family like mine, and so might not have been allowed to even express the things I did. I do think a lot of people experienced something similar, though. My guess is that some things in this respect are changing, and that the generation before me, would have met with more resistance to even the things I posted above. I also realize that not everyone is able to “come out” to family or friends, without going through usually at least, some type of painful process. Luckily my brother was able to, relatively smoothly, at least compared to other friends. I also have a cousin still in the closet to his parents and sister. It would be nice to see coming out, as not even an issue.
Not sure what you were going for, regarding the rest of your OP. Particularly, other sexualities as opposing heterosexuality.
I think it is because of all the colored text, Lobelia.
I must point out that the large majority of homosexuals do not dress in shiny shirts, leather pants, and walk around with their hands drooping at the wrists speaking in lisps.
The large majority are exactly the same as a “normal” person. If you want me to build a typecast of a straight guy, I’m sure it would be quite unflattering. But socially? No, there isn’t a difference. Hell, a large number of homosexuals are Christian.
I’ve had the same problem, Lobelia. I’m a straight woman, but I have an obsession for baseball and an affection for being comfortable. I wear jeans and tennis shoes, and can chat bball with the boys, therefore I must be a lesbian. I usually just explain to people that I’m a Tom-Boy and always have been. I’m sure many don’t believe me, but that’s OK, not my problem.
Well I was in Seattle a few years ago and was taken to a lesbian night club, and I can safely say I didn’t look like any of the women in there
I think with me it stems from the fact that I am over 6 feet tall, and as such I couldn’t possibly be remotely feminine in the hetero sense, I’d have to be a big butch lezzie wouldn’t I?
