I am in need of a neutral third party perspective on my marriage. We have been together 3 years, married 3 months, and have a one year old. We’ve had a pretty rocky relationship but things got better around the wedding. Since then, its gone downhill fast. This past week we got into a huge fight. Im still not sure what set it off but when I woke up Monday morning he was walking out the front door with packed bags. He came back a few hrs later and confessed to searching thru my phone and finding me looking up marriage advice. He blew up, became irrational and started threating to take the money, get a vasectomy, etc. All crazy things. U left with my daughter to get her out of that environment and went to my parents house so we could both cool down. He kept the irrational behavior up all week so I stayed until Friday. By Thursday he had been to a lawyer twice to file for separation bc he claimed I was keeping him from our daughter. He told me was going for full custody and was telling me he would use anything he could to get her. He then took out half our money and sent me a pic of the lawyer filling out the papers ( weird). I came back Friday night so he could see her and now he wants to forget the separation and move on.
Here’s some more background. He said me and my sister (we are grown adults) are sluts, is the breadwinner but hasn’t brought home a paycheck in months, plays games instead of playing with his daughter, won’t pick up after himself (not household chores), hasn’t helped with raising our daughter since she was a newborn (I also worked full time for 5 months). I do all financial and household chores, raise the kid alone, and he isn’t even responsible enough to take care if his failing health. We have a platonic relationship, rarely are intimate(he says its miserable), and he won’t do anything together as a couple or family.
I’m at my wits end. I’m not happy and after this week, I don’t look at him the same. I don’t know if I can forgive him for trying to take my daughter away from me. My family doesn’t trust him and doesn’t really like him anymore either. I feel bad breaking up a family since we have a child but I’m not happy at all. Any advice would be appreciated. If you need any more info let me know!! Thanks