My wife and I got married at the age of 22 and 23 respectively. We’ve been married for 13 years and it looks as if this will be the last year. Separation and divorce are, without a doubt, the most painful, God-awful, stress-inducing, nasty shit that one can endure. While we gave it a very good run, our relationship has just reached a natural end. No one’s fault, as such. It just is.
I’m convinced, however, that had we had more experience as single people under our belt this would not have happened. Long story cut short: I don’t know if there is an ideal age. Just make sure that you’ve lived on your own some.
Well, gosh darn it, I AM ready, but it seems none of the men I know are.
I’ve always thought that you should get married in mid 20’s and go through life together, changing, growing, all that good stuff (and bad stuff too!) I know, it is kinda sappy and romantic. I feel kinda cheated that I never got to experience the whole “young love” thing. No offense to those of you who married late in life, but the thought of not getting married until I am in my 40’s or later does not appeal to me. Of course, never marrying at all is even worse, and that seems to be the road I am heading down.
I got married at 22 and my husband was 23 and we just celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary on the fifth of this month. I like being married. We both however did live a bit before we got married I had been in the Navy three years when we got married and had traveled and he had graduated from college. We first started dating when I was 16 and I can tell you love goes through some interesting changes. I think that the perfect time to get married is whenever you are ready. My mother just got married for the third time, after a 20-year hiatus from being married and this time it seems like it will work. So, I guess the answer is that there is no set right time, just the right person.
I could be content to never get married IF I was in a committed, comfortable relationship. If I loved him and he loved me, and we communicated well and were good to each other as well as good together, then that’s all I need. Don’t get me wrong; I have nothing against the institution of marriage and I’m not embittered from family divorces. I would honor my commitment and never cheat on a SO. I’m very much a hopeless romantic. I just don’t feel the necessity of getting married.
I’d still want to exchange rings, though. I think that’s nice.
I just had a chat today with a friend of mine and both of us think that there seems to be an obsession with “coupling off”.
I don’t want to get married. I don’t need to get married. There isn’t anything in it for me. I dispar the fact that so many seem so driven by this. Why do we need to marry? Why for that matter do we need to couple off?
I don’t think this is valid for everyone. Some of us just choose not to. There is no right or wrong age just as there is no right or wrong in doing so.
Do what YOU feel comfortable with. If you feel you can make a life-time commitment than that’s wonderful and I am truly happy for you! If you feel you do not want to make a commitment like that then, again, I am truly happy for you! It’s not what I think, it’s what YOU think and what YOU want.
I think it has to do with when your absolutly sure that this is the person you want to spend your life with. When you don’t question wether you’ll be happy, you know you will. When you can’t question splitting up, it’s not an option.
I just got married saturday, I’m 19, he’s 20. It seems a bit too young to me as well as everyone else. But then again, we were sure…
Father was engaged in high school, got married at 21. Mother was 23.
Roommate’s mother was 19 when she married.
Godmother got married in her late 30s/early 40s.
Basically, when you’re ready to make a lifetime commitment to a person and they are, too.
BTW, Michi, you did notice the lack of dopers your age around you in FLA, no? That has something to do with the fact that you are, unbelievably, still single. [aside: fuck it’s annoying being 10+ years younger than soem of y’all . . ]
My grandmother wanted to get married when she was 15, but her mother made her wait until she was 16, my grandfather was 21. My mom was 19 and my father was 21.
I’ll probably get married next year, while I’m still 18. Maybe I’ll wait till I’m 19, my fiance, will be 21 or 22. I know we are young, but there is not a single doubt in my mind. It would seem odd to me if we WEREN’T getting married. We’ve already lived together for almost 2 years like we were married, and it’s all working out peachy keen.
I got married when I was 17 and am now 20. I personally think that if you listen to your heart( didn’t mean to wax sappy on ya) You will know the right time. Buut I will tell you my pet peeve is when People find out when I got married and are like " Oh you are wasting your best years" or call me a child bride. Blah
I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for almost 5 years now. She wants to get married, I’m not ready yet. There are some things that I want to do first before commiting to marrage. I want to finish Paramedic school, purchase a house, and be generally fiancially stable. I don’t want to enter into a relationship with any more stress than there needs to be. To have those things allready taken care of, I would hope that we could focus on other things.
I think 17 y.o. boys should marry 35 y.o. women, for a set period of time, say 20 years. Supposedly that’s when both sexes hit their sexual peaks. Since the male is so much younger than the female, she expects him to be immature. She keeps him around to be her little sex toy, and that’s what he wants to be at that age anyway. She refines all that energy, and teaches him the fine points of making love to a woman.
When he’s 37 and she’s 55, she gets the alimony while she hunts for another man to grow old with, this one a 57 y.o. Her first husband is now in mid-life crisis, and is looking for a sweet young thing to shack up with.
He marries a 17 y.o. woman for a set period of time, 20 years. He has a diminished sex drive by now (at least compare to when he was 17), but he’s a lot more sophisticated and mature. The 17 y.o. woman gets a mature man that is sexually sophisticated. At 57 he leaves her to find a 55 y.o woman to grow old with.
I like being married. We both however did live a bit before we got married I had been in the Navy three years when we got married and had traveled and he had graduated from college. We first started dating when I was 16 and I can tell you love goes through some interesting changes. I think that the perfect time to get married is whenever you are ready. My mother just got married for the third time, after a 20-year hiatus from being married and this time it seems like it will work. So, I guess the answer is that there is no set right time, just the right person.