Is that what you’ve been on about all this time? Jesus. You couldn’t have just come out and said that two pages back? Seriously: this is supposed to be a conversation, not Zen Koan Day in the head trauma ward.
Well, duh. It’d be really fucking creepy if I were masturbating to a picture of my own daughter, wouldn’t it?
But, yeah, I get your “point.” The problem is, your point revolves around the assumption that we feel appearing in porn to be dirty and shameful. Except, most of the folks your talking to have long since shed that Victorian sex-phobic bullshit. Admittedly, porn isn’t exactly the dream career I’d have in mind for any hypothetical children I might someday conceive. I also wouldn’t want my kid to have a career scrubbing public toilets. That doesn’t oblige me to avoid pissing in the restroom at MacDonalds.
If I get married, it’s even odds whether I’ll have a wife or a husband. Either way, if I fell for someone with a history in porn… well, frankly, I’d consider that a bonus. My spouse is so hot people paid money to see them naked? I think I’d be bragging my ass off about that one.
So? This applies to anyone that I have any sort of sexual encounter or relationship with. (Except the guys, who are, obviously, someone’s son.) Should I feel ashamed to have sex with them, because they used to be somebody’s baby?
Actually, anonymity isn’t any part of the appeal of porn to me, or to most people. You go out and look at the big porn sites on the web, and there’s a lot of effort going into showing the participants personality. A lot of porn stars have blogs and message boards attached to their sites, so that they can talk to their fans. A big part of sex is mental. Even if you’re just watching a wank video, if you know a little something about the person involved, it can make the experience a lot more pleasurable.
I do, actually. I think sex worker’s rights is an important issue. There’s nothing at all shameful about doing porn, but there are a lot of dangerous aspects to it, including violence and drug abuse. That sort of thing needs to be cleaned up. Which is hard to do, so long as people like yourself continue to enforce an atmosphere of shame around pornography. It’s hard to organize and police an industry when the people who work in it are ashamed to admit they work there.
That’s why I support porn sites like Abby Winters, which, as it happens, is owned and operated by a Doper. She started a thread about it not long ago. You should check it out. You might actually learn something.
Dude, what? 