If masturbating had meant that my boyfriend had cheated on me, I don’t even want to think about how many times that would make. Or vice versa. I know he does it. He tells me he does. And when does he do it? When I’m not home. He can’t have sex with me right then so he does the next best thing for him. I don’t care. I do the same thing. If he didn’t masturbate I’d be worried. Our sex life sure hasn’t suffered a bit. It just gets better and better!
Now, if he was masturbating in lieu of sex and wasn’t making any attempts to have sex with me, there’d be a problem. But as long as that isn’t the case, why make a big deal out of it? It’s not icky and it won’t make him go blind!
A. I think it’s a pretty safe bet this is womanspeak for “Cut down on the self gratification and start gratifying me once in a while.”
B. If not… well then, just start demanding sex on a whim, at all hours of the day, with no notice. Seriously, after a day or two of being confronted with the male sex drive, most women will be ordering you to handle things yourself.
Before I met her I had had a subscription to Playboy(kept them in the “reading room”) and one day while reading the um…articles I noticed all the naked women had mustaches and full beards drawn in(she had expressed her displeasure about my choice of reading material sometime when I wasn’t around)
Not the reason she is an EX but it sure didn’t help any
BTW Disturbingly even after the defacing of my personal art collection I still thought the girls in the magazine were hot
I remember my dad telling my brother he would go blind doing that to himself. He said. “You know those three blind mice , how do you think they got like that?” “Dad”, He said, “I’m only gonna do it 'til I need glasses” And then we realized Dad wore glasses. And Uncle Mike, and…
Now, will you ever look at a person with glasses, and not wonder?
Perhaps her issue isn’t so much with the act of masurbation but your visual inspiration?
My ex didn’t care if I did, like others have said it kept her from having to deal with my libido, but she did seem to get upset if I used porn in any shape or form.
I assume my wife of three years knows I rub one out on occasion, especially when ‘That Special Time’ of the month is about, or she just isn’t up to it, etc.
Admittedly, ‘on occasion’ is more like ‘on many, frequent occasions’ with the addition of a cable modem and its subsequent abilities to provide me with a dizzying array of beatable material.
Still, I’d much rather f*** my wife (b/c I am a lucky, lucky bastard who married a major-league hottie who can crank it up in the sack and gets into it pretty well herself) than help myself out.
I think it’s been pretty well agreed upon that masturbation isn’t cheating. A woman who gets upset about it most likely has issues about sex and/or self worth. I will occasionally get twinges when I find that my husband has masturbated, but I understand myself well enough to realize that that happens when I’m feeling insecure and it has nothing to do with me, he’s just horny. And he’s getting plenty of sex, believe me.
