IANAL but, the way it was explained to us by the judge and the state’s attorney, because both the defendant and the victim are minors any disclosure of the case by the parties involved, including their parents, is a breach of confidentiality and could be considered contempt of court. The idea being that minors are given a chance to reform and when they are 18 have a clean slate. If you go around saying, “That pervert kid touched my child,” it makes it more difficult for them to lead a normal life. Never mind the fact that my daughter had to go to the hospital for an exam to make sure she hadn’t been sexually assaulted, had nightmares for months, hid every time that a police car came by and the fact that the asshole still lives 3 fucking houses down from us and rides his bike through the neighborhood. Where’s the consideration of her having a normal life?
The detective on the case told us flat out that we couldn’t say anything directly about him but it was OK to tell our friends. He then said, “It’s too bad you can’t stop your friends from gossiping, though,” and winked!
We had a couple incidents with that little shit stopping his bike in front of our house and his mother flipping off our son despite the fact that they had a no contact order against them. We went to the police who said they would keep an eye on the creep and his family. True to their word, the cops warned them to keep their distance, kept driving by their house, parked down the block from them to do their paperwork and generally put a little fear into them.
They were warned, he stopped coming by. The mother kept flipping off our son, videotaped him when he was waiting at the bus stop, her father flipped us off and she called the cops on us claiming that I threatened her precious little snowflake (the cops came out for that one, interviewed me and several neighbors to find out it was a load of crap and issued her with a warning).
We contacted the state’s attorney who threatened the mother with contempt of court for violating the court order about no contact. She was told that if she didn’t stop she could get locked up and/or fined. That stopped her.
Unfortunately, his probation ends this summer which means that this piece of shit will be free to roam the neighborhood and can sit in front of our house. Our son wants to beat the shit out of him but we warned him that he can’t do anything. Of course, if the kid starts anything he is free to defend himself.
BTW, I forgot to mention one thing my son did: they go to the same school and ride the same bus. My son told his friends. When homecoming was coming around, someone stuffed the pervs locker with pamphlets from a daycare center. My son had an alibi so he was OK.
You know what I really don’t understand here is the mother’s behavior. That’s the mystifying part–if it were my kid, there would be some severe therapy going on right now. The kid I can vaguely understand–young teens are malicious creatures by nature anyway half the time.
Oh Slypork that’s horrible. I do think there needs to be a special cricumstances law for juvies who are sex offenders or otherwise severely sociopathic. Yes, wiping the slate clean is a good idea in a lot of cases…but there are some cases where a juvie record could serve as a strong warning sign.
The criminal justice system could head off some dangerous people (and crime) that way. Too bad there’s not a way to publicize your story. I mean there are some dangerous sociopaths out there.
Is your daughter in therapy? Make sure she knows that she doesn’t have to act out sexually…it’s very common for girls who have been sexually abused or raped to sleep around to try to “heal”
Keep telling her that that scumbag was a MONSTER. He did it to dominate and manipualte her
Which brings me to my next point.
Well that’s b/c child rape is about manipulating and coercing someone who is rather innocent. It’s not about love. It’s about domination and manipulating their emotions (remember Humbert Humbert? " It was HER fault. She led me on!"
When homecoming was coming around, someone stuffed the pervs locker with pamphlets from a daycare center. My son had an alibi so he was OK.