Son and his boyfriend have been together for about two years now, and moved in together about a year ago. My wife and I have met boyfriend a couple of times (they live 800+ miles from us), and he seems great; they make a good partnership. Son has also met boyfriend’s parents, who likewise live many miles from them but like us come to town now and then.
This Christmas both sets of parents were in town. Son and BF decided to take the plunge and introduce the families. They were both very nervous. But they wasted a good worry: everything went very well.
We got together at the home of BF’s uncle and aunt, who live locally, and had an excellent visit of about three hours. There were six of them and six of us, so that was fair. They all liked the pastries we brought; we all liked the pastries they offered us. BF’s father and I discovered a mutual interest in a particular hobby, the two sisters (my daughter and BF’s sister) hit it off quite well, we all agreed on politics (BF’s 87-yr-old grandmother: “I’ve never voted for a Republican in my life!”), and my mother did not drink too much. Phew!
We already suspected that this was a “for keeps” relationship, but the meeting of the fams seems to make it more probable. I’d be interested in hearing from other parents of grown children about their experiences with this sort of thing. When you met the “other family,” how did it go? Did you like them? (Did they like you?) Did it seem to represent a cementing of the relationship? Any interesting stories, good or bad? Please share!