There have been long periods of my life where I’ve only had male friends - female acquaintances, but male friends. Maybe they were sexually attracted to me, maybe not. Wasn’t relevant. I know that in some cases they were, confessed such far into the friendship, and it some cases they weren’t - I wasn’t really their type.
Currently, my best friend is my husband, and I’m not seeing much of anyone except a couple of my girlfriends on occation, the people I work with, & some of his friends when they visit us.
I used to notice that I’d loose my male friends when they became deeply involved with other women (romantically). I used to think this was her influence. I now notice that my female friends do the same thing. When you fall in love you don’t take time for the other stuff in your life. A couple months later and a phone call will often change that.
I usually end up getting sexual with my male friends, but we’re still just friends, no relationship. Some people find it slutty, but it works for me. We get the fun of sex, but none of the commitment crap, which honestly none of us could handle anyways. I had one friend that lasted for 4 years before we hooked up…I figured he was an exception to my style. The last time I saw him, we hooked up, so I ruined that. Now I need a new friend to not sleep with…any volunteers?
Two of my best IRL friends are men. One, my friend Brian, we have never been anything more than friends. The other, my friend Craig, we had an intense flirtation that we mutually ended but the friendship goes on.
It just depnds on the people involved. Me and Brian have never had any physical attraction but I know I can call him, day or night, and have someone to talk me down or crack me up, if need be. With Craig, I know I can tell him ANYTHING and he will not judge me, but offer his support.
It doesn’t hurt things that me/Brian/Craig are basically the same person in different bodies. Intelligent yet goofy, acting hardassed but secretly a big softy, punk rock wrestling fans. I’m forever grateful to know both of them, and they better be grateful to know me, hehehehhe.
I’ve been platonic friends with many men during most of my life. For some reason, it’s easier to make friends with them than it is with women.
I think one of those reasons is I don’t have to compete with men as much. It’s much easier to kick back and relax and talk to a man. There’s no competition for potential romantic partners, and most of my men friends don’t care about stuff like clothes and gossip. Not that a lot of my female friends do, either, but I’ve found it’s more common with women.
There is a HUGE maturity component involved, however. I’ve had men try to befriend me to get me into bed, and when that happens, away they go! The men I’ve made lasting friendships with have either expressed mild interest in sleeping with me, or the issue has been discussed and rejected. I do have some friends I’d like to sleep with, but for the sake of the friendship, I’ve shelved those feelings.
So, the short answer is, yes, it is possible to be platonic friends with the opposite sex.
Intelligent yet goofy, acting hardassed but secretly a big softy, punk rock wrestling fans. I’m forever grateful to know both of them, and they better be grateful to know me, hehehehhe.