It seems that my husband is oversexed. He thinks about it ALL the time. I’m just wondering if this is the norm. DO men think about it all the time? Am I undersexed? He’s 55 years old, for God’s sake.
Don’t get me wrong, I love sex. But it’s not the only thing in the world! I don’t think about it every minute of the day. Am I just married to an exception? Or are all guys like this?
Yes, pretty much. Next question.
My hubby is 44. He may not think about sex all the time, but certainly often enough that if there’s any possible way to put a sexual spin on any comment I make, he finds it. I’m glad that he still wants me, even in my advanced years, but sheesh!!! Sometimes a sausage is just a sausage, ya know???
No, not all the time.
Ah, that was a nice break. Now back to thinking about sex.
Put me down for “all the time”.
I had a public speaking class, and we were shown some study that showed that men think of something sexual every 8 seconds on average (in a lecture or presentation setting).
If you are a woman, and you walk by some men, no matter what the setting (even in church), we are imagining various things of a sexual nature and you.
Woman speaker in front of a group: every man is thinking about her in one position or another.
If men find you unattracrive? No problem. We imagine you in some sexual position, maybe with someone else, and we just think about how bad it is, then we scan for an acceptable woman and imagine her in some sexual setting.
And here is the kicker: I’m wondering what Dolores Claiborne looks like and wondering if she’s bang-able.
Hey, you asked.
When I look at my post, it looks like a joke, but it’s not. I also wonder if I’m a sick fu@%.
That’s exactly it! He may not want to actively do it right this second, but he always has a sexual comment on ANYthing! (I also like the fact that he still wants me after all these years, too.)
Of course not ALL the time. Sometimes I’m concentrating on something else, then I’m not thinking about anything except that something else.
But when my brain is just in idle, you bet. Or any social situation.
Basically, if I’m not too preoccupied to talk, some portion of my brain is thinking about sex. And sometimes even when I am.
You said “What about women?” so I’m checking in. Now, it might be 'cause I’m a teenager, I don’t know, but I think about sex almost (if not equally) as much as the guys I know. If there’s a sexual spin to be put on anything, I will find it. I just don’t vocalize it as often as the males of my acquaintance do.
I’m a woman, I’m 28…and while I wouldn’t say that I think about sex 24/7, I WOULD say that I think about it, oh…
21/6.
The other hours are spent looking for food and taking bubblebaths.
My husband laughs when I tell him I’m oversexed…because while I may THINK about sex all the time, I don’t necessarily HAVE sex all the time…even though I’ve got a husband right there who will gladly participate.
Because, frankly, I’m not always thinking about having sex with him. Last night I watched the hockey game…and my husband never entered my mind…
jarbaby
I think “all the time” pretty much covers it. Hell, I think about sex even when I DON"T WANT TO!!! Jaysus!! I don’t know why, maybe it’s just the way we’re wired.
Another 21/6 woman checking in. Yeah, it crosses my mind with astonishing frequency. As I just told my SO, sometimes I even think about having sex with him.
I’m a 28 year old male and I really don’t think about sex all the time. I’m a bit of a weirdo though.
I find that when I’m in public and an attractive female is within close proximity, I’ll look at her and admire her features (trying not to stare or be obvious about it, mind you) more than picture her in a position or something like that. I guess I’d say about 70% of the time that I’m doing that I’m just admiring a girl’s looks and about 30% of the time I’m thinking about her in a more sexual way.
Someone mentioned a study that found out how often men think about sex - I remember hearing about the same (or very similar) study and I remember that it concluded that women think about sex more often than men. shrug
I think about sex several times a week, often as much as once or twice a day, for a few minutes at a time. If you count sexually related topics, then it’s definitely every day but certainly not 24/7. If you restrict it to the limited domain of imagining having sex with someone, then it’s possibly once a week. It varies though.
Only because I usually say it first, dear. 
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Put me down for pretty much all the time. It’s hard not to when you are constantly rubbed from behind when cooking, doing dishes, working at the computer, looking out the window, talking on the phone, reading, showering, etc. You get the drift.
I’m probably an anomaly, but I like the fact that men think about sex all the time.
jarbabyj, lolagranola: If you think about sex 21/6, which day do you take off?
I’ve just looked at Dolores Claiborne’s picture on the People Pages. Definitely bangable. Definitely.
What was the question again? Oh, right. No, I don’t think about sex 24/7. I think about home improvement projects, my job, my vacation plans, my friends, the topic of whichever thread I’m posting to, the books I’m currently reading[sup]1[/sup].
I think about sex when I see a woman I’d like to have sex with, or when emailing the woman I’d like to have sex with, or when I’m with Mama.[sup]2[/sup]
I probably think about sex more when I have an SO (which I don’t right now), and thus have ready access to it and fresh memories of it. But even then, it doesn’t rule my thoughts, and sometimes I can just think about how pretty my SO is without even imagining us doing the humpty-hump.
[sup]1[/sup]Of course, one of these books is Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual, so it probably counts as sex-thought, since I can’t read it without becoming aroused.
[sup]2[/sup]That’s a joke. Of course I don’t think about sex when I’m with Mama. My Mama, anyway.
24/7? Well…maybe not quite. I find that mortal peril sometimes prevents me from having sexual thoughts for most of its duration. Of course, I tend to make up for it immediately afterwards. The rest of the time, odds are there’s something sex-related bouncing around in the back of my mind, even if I’m doing intricate calculations with the front of it.
(Male, for anyone who is unsure.)
Not 24/7, but I think about sex during periods within that 24/7 so finely subdivided that you can always find two sex-related thoughts within an arbitrarily small time period of each other. It’s like that Koch function in mathematics (when I’m not thinking about sex I’m thinking about math.)
Pepper Mill doesn’t properly appreciate this, despite several years of marriage. Often she will say that she was interested in sex, but that I looked too wrapped up in a TV show/book/was too tired. I told her that I am NEVER too interested in TV/a book/too tired/too into math for sex, and next time she should let me know. But she doesn’t. Either this is a convenient excuse, or she really isn’t quite as obsessed as I am.
When does a male ** not ** think of sex. That’s the question. I seldom think of it in the dentist’s chair, when I have snubbed my toe, or even when I am deeply involved in some technical job, otherwise as ** TheNerd** said, whenever the brain is idle, you bet!
When the male brain is not co-opted into doing something else it reverts back to its basic condition which has to do with getting your chromosones passed on.
Even when you are 60 as I am and there is not much chance of any more of that, the old brain keeps running in the same old grooves.
By the way my sweet wife considers me a dirty-old-man and an octopus, after 40 years she still has a hard time to get past me without a pat, squeeze, rub, kiss, hug or whathaveyou. It’s the way I am built, its the way to keep a marriage fresh after 38 years. If I see a couple where the man is ** not ** like that, I mentally make a quick estimate to the time of the divorce.
I love my wife, my sweetie, but this in no way stops me from looking at and admiring other ladies, and telling them so when I see one I like. (TequilaMockingbird, you are one hot babe IMHO, love your website
Retief
24/7?
Certainly not!!
Guy has gotta sleep sometime!!
:: Let’s see, when else?? ::
Oh, I hardly ever think about sex during sex! (I don’t think at all during sex, strictly creature of sensation and emotion)