Men - Does it bother you that everybody assumes you're a child molester?

[Scylla]

@fessie

Oh, dear. You’ve so lost your perspective.

You’re not the only one struggling with this issue - all of us parents are.

And I know for an absolute fact that we’re all dealing with finite resources. Every single one of us. There is no human being who can be vigilant 100% of the time on 100% of the possible dangers.

Heh. I am somewhat unusual and exceptional. Did you read the part where I mentioned that I was THE HAMMER OF GOD?

Everybody brags on their kids. My greatest kid though is The Chosen One. She is the Child of Light who shall lead us out of darkness. She is the savior of the universe. It is her destiny to save us all in the future.

As the father of the chosen one I am **THE HAMMER OF GOD[b/], and I am imbued with certain powers and properties. I can run 50 miles and bench 300 pounds. I have acute perceptions, and I am pure of mind, sound of body, stout of heart, brave of spirit.

Like The Shadow, I can look into the hearts of men and see their intention.

I can see five seconds into the future. My judgement is as immutable, and inescapable as the laws of physics. I’m as ruthless as cancer, and am less pity and mercy than a kitten.

I am the point of the arrow, the tip of the spear.

People routinely say that I am one in a million. They lie.

I am **much[b/] better than that.

As the Hammer of God it is my sworn duty and privilege to protect my children. My eldest, The Chosen One, Child of Light, Embodiment of Goodness, and my younger daughter who is… ummm… how to say this…

She’s The Child of Darkness… I guess that says it.

Anyway. It is my duty to protect them, no matter the cost. Many years from now the forces of good and evil will align with my progeny and all of humanity will participate in the final battle… and the final reconciliation.
So yes. Seriously. I am incredibly vigilant.

Here are the stats, straight from the CDC.

Here’s the detail on unintentional injury, which is in first place.

The quality of your links mirrors that of your arguments.

(that means they don’t work)

And I never said it would be funny if you and/or your daughter was hit by a car, that would’ve been in poor taste.

I recall exactly what you said. The bottom line is that nice well-intentioned people do not speculate idly about other people’s children suffering vehicular tragedy.

[Autolycus]

stunned

I’m sorry Scylla… I’ve had a few drinks and my humor-ometer isn’t functioning properly. I mean no disrespect, but your above post (#221) WAS a joke right?

[DrDeth]

@buttonjockey308

. You saved a child, comic-book style from a speeding train,

Oh, and this stuck in the back of my head. Just for the record- I was not any sort of hero. I grabbed the kid from the sidewalk side, I was in almost no personal danger at all. It wasnt one of those things where the hero goes flying across the tracks or anything.

[Indistinguishable]

What happened to you, Scylla?

You used to be so good at deploying “bold” tags…

[Freudian_Slit]

@Indistinguishable

What happened to you, Scylla?

You used to be so good at deploying “bold” tags…

Such is the price of raising the Child of Darkness and the Child of Light.

[Scylla]

@Autolycus

You write very eloquently and I can see where you are coming from. I think it’s your above statement and its ilk that are causing all the recent friction in this thread. I understand you’re not soliciting opinions, but you seem to be defensive when people disagree with you. Yet, you say things that make it very easy for people to get angry and disagreeable. I’m confuzzled.

I don’t worry about it. The things I say and do are not designed to solicit other people’s approval. They are designed to promote the well-being of my kids.

People don’t like to think that their approval or opinion doesn’t matter.

Why do people react strongly? Don’t know. Don’t care. I don’t make people angry. They choose to get angry or not. That’s their choice, and their problem. The safety and well-being of my kid is my problem. I won’t be coerced against my better judgement concerning my kid just to save somebody’s feelings.

[Scylla]

@Indistinguishable

What happened to you, Scylla?

You used to be so good at deploying “bold” tags…

There are a few tradeoffs when you become {B}THE HAMMER OF GOD{B?}

[tomndebb]

TWEEEET!!!

OK, I can see where the contentiousness of this thread got it shovedinto Great Debates from IMHO. However, we’ve still got some rules, here. One of the first is to avoid making all your arguments personal.

That rule was violated several pages ago in this thread, but you will all adhere to it from now on.

No more shots at other posters. No more “explaining” what they are doing wrong.

I didn’t bring you into this Forum, but I can and will take you out of it.

[ /Moderating ]

[FoieGrasIsEvil]

@Sunrazor

It’s the one and only reason I will not change my baby granddaughter’s diaper. Seriously. I’m not even comfortable being left alone with her. “Good job, America” indeed.

Then you are indeed a fucking pussy. That awkwardness about “seeing your daughter naked” shouldn’t kick in until she defines that role. SHE will let you know when she’s no longer OK with you as Dad giving her baths, etc.
All you can do is respect her privacy.

[FoieGrasIsEvil]

@Fish

It’s not surprising that the education system is presently crying for the lack of good male teachers; they say that children need male role models, too. Too bad there’s this double-standard that says males cannot be trusted with children.

I think the problem reaches farther than men and children: the freedom to choose one’s position and occupation enables all kinds of people with peculiar mental programming to be near the source of their obsessions. Pedophiles are drawn to being coaches and priests; ephebophiles become high-school teachers. How many times recently have we seen the anti-prostitution crusader be caught in the brothel? How many times have we seen the anti-gay crusader come out of the closet?

The irony of these few cases is so memorable it’s hard not to draw larger conclusions about teachers and coaches and priests and politicians, even though the bad apples are vastly in the minority.

It’s a shame. Yeah, I feel like women wouldn’t trust me around their children. Unfortunately, I can also understand why. C’est la vie.

Sad and true. Depressing for me. I have a 14 year old stepdaughter that my wife and I are having a myriad of issues with.

[tomndebb]

@FoieGrasIsEvil

Then you are indeed a fucking pussy.

And you are out of line.

If you need to be insulting, then go open a Pit thread.
[ /Moderating ]

[FoieGrasIsEvil]

@tomndebb

TWEEEET!!!

OK, I can see where the contentiousness of this thread got it shovedinto Great Debates from IMHO. However, we’ve still got some rules, here. One of the first is to avoid making all your arguments personal.

That rule was violated several pages ago in this thread, but you will all adhere to it from now on.

No more shots at other posters. No more “explaining” what they are doing wrong.

I didn’t bring you into this Forum, but I can and will take you out of it.

[ /Moderating ]

Thanks Bill Cosby!

[Der_Trihs]

@FoieGrasIsEvil

Then you are indeed a fucking pussy. That awkwardness about “seeing your daughter naked” shouldn’t kick in until she defines that role.

And how will how it “should” work help him if bathing his daughter naked gets him accused of being a child molester ?

[FoieGrasIsEvil]

@tomndebb

And you are out of line.

If you need to be insulting, then go open a Pit thread.
[ /Moderating ]

OOoop! You’re right, I often get the “line” out of sync because so many of the GD threads resemble the BBQ threads. Sorry!

And I apologize to Sunrazor for doing the very thing that I abhor the most, which is calling another poster a name (even in the Pit) instead of negotiating.

Sincere apologies.

[FoieGrasIsEvil]

@Der Trihs

And how will how it “should” work help him if bathing his daughter naked gets him accused of being a child molester ?

Why is this even a discussion? You are a Dad, you are legally entitled to help bathe your daughter as much as you are to bathe your son.

People that accuse molestation without grounds should be drawn and quartered.

Conversely, people that actually molest children should serve the same fate.

[Kalhoun]

@Scylla

In the final analysis, if I piss off you off and you think I’m a jerk because I’m overprotective… I’m ok with that.

If my child suffers because I was afraid to hurt your feelings or have you think I am a jerk, than I think that I am a failure and unworthy to be a parent.

What if your child suffers because you are overprotective?

[Scylla]

@Kalhoun

What if your child suffers because you are overprotective?

In my judgement there is no significant risk of this happening at this time. Should that change, adjustments can be made until we find the right level (if that’s the prudent course.)

As parents, we are monitoring our child and the effects of the way we parent on the child and we are adjusting constantly. We talk to each other about it, get advice from grandparents, teachers, trusted friends who know us and our children, books that we’ve read and I’m pretty sure we’re on top of the situation to such a degree that we can safely dismiss criticism from well-intentioned strangers, random weirdos, and people on the internet who have never met me or my daughter or my wife and have absolutely no clue what they are talking about.

[WhyNot]

@Scylla

In my judgement there is no significant risk of this happening at this time.

head, meet table

There’s no significant risk of *molestation *happening at this time, either!

[Kalhoun]

There is, however, a significant risk of your children picking up on your general distrust of people, and being afraid to turn to a stranger for help if they need it. There is also a significant risk that your children will never quite open up to others, never develop their own reasonable sense of danger because they’ll have never had the opportunity to meet strangers and learn about the world with an open attitude and the opportunity to weigh risk factors on their own.

[Scylla]

@Kalhoun

There is, however, a significant risk of your children picking up on your general distrust of people, and being afraid to turn to a stranger for help if they need it. There is also a significant risk that your children will never quite open up to others, never develop their own reasonable sense of danger because they’ll have never had the opportunity to meet strangers and learn about the world with an open attitude and the opportunity to weigh risk factors on their own.

As I tried to say politely in my previous post, I feel confident in dismissing the random speculations of the ignorant and unqualified. The very fact that you would deign to offer judgement on specific circumstances of which you have no knowledge is laughable.

These things you say, are not significant risks. You could not possibly know enough to have a judgement in the matter worth considering.

Constant ignorant and bad unwanted advice from total strangers concerning your children is the price of having them.