Theoretically speaking, I’d think it depends on whether there was a coercive or element of use to it or not. I mean, if it was somehow a case of this 25 year old woman actually liking me enough to have the happy-fun-time sex with me, no strings attached, then I’m not so sure it would have screwed me up, with the possible exception of making the girls my age seem inexperienced by comparison.
However, if this was some way for her to get back at her husband, or was used as some sort of potential stick to beat me with, then I don’t think that being used as a pawn in someone else’s game would be good for anyone, and especially not for a 16 year old boy having no experience with sex, romance, or for the most part, girls.
This thread reminds me of a situation in my high school. In 11th grade when we were 17 a guy on the soccer team starting sleeping with the female coach who was probably late 20s. Everyone knew about it and the coach was eventually fired. The guy’s parents freaked out and forbid him from seeing her but never pressed charges. They ended up getting married and are together to this day, 20 years later! That is not a normal outcome for this situation…
Maybe it’s more normal than we think. The teacher in the original teacher/student sex scandal, Mary Kay Letourneau, was released from prison in 2004. She ended up marrying the student she had an affair and they’ve been together for ten years now. They’ve lived a mostly anonymous life.
PLEASE NOTE, the student was 12 when this all began and I think that is incredibly sick. I’m just posting this because it seemed relevant.
I will note that there are good reasons, based on this hamster study, for teenagers to delay having sex, whether it’s with a same-age or adult partner.
“…I can get straight A’s for four years, but do they call me John the valedictorian? No. I can graduate from Harvard, but do they call me John the Harvard alum? No. I can get my JD, but do they call me John the lawyer? No. But I fuck just one teacher…”
You dont think every kid in that school doesnt know the name? You think they havent told the media?
As I said this will always be there as part of his past. He would have to move far away to escape it. If he stays in that town it will always be “Hey, remember…”.
Again, how will he explain this to his own kids and grandkids?
He won’t have to. There was a teacher/student thing rumored between a twentysomething teacher and a student in my high school and I couldn’t tell you his name even if you had a gun to my head.
Not from me they won’t. People are free to have preferences of whoever they want to have sex with. It’s no anti-trans slur to say someone doesn’t want to sleep with one of my people. I don’t want to sleep with cisgender men, but I’m not misandric.
Thanks, I should make clear that I have no problem with transgender people, friendships, come to my home, or whatever. In fact I work for Human Rights Campaign which works to end discrimination of any kind against LGBT folks.
Just having sex with them, and they never revealed will traumatize me for sure.
Okay back to our regular program of teachers giving lucky students a ride and lesson of a lifetime.:D;)
Right, it is simple as that. Maybe in other cases the student will take it in a negative way, but this student was bragging. People do not brag about things that effect them negatively or are deemed shameful.
Say if he were in prison and a few men forced to him to service them, then he would not be bragging.
He won’t go into details, but he’ll say that 50 years ago grandpa had sex with two teachers. No big deal, as long as he does not divulge details.
On a side note, I got to thinking. This student turned 17 very recently, as the incident was barely a month ago on Sept 12. So he was born fall of 1997, right after Princess Diana was killed. :eek:
Makes me feel so old, and I’m only a decade older.
He was only three in the year 2000, and has already had a threesome that many born in 1960 still have not had. He is a kid after all.
I think it would have been disastrous. Either it would have come out and the resulting scandal would be way more than my 16-year-old self could handle, or it would have been kept secret and would - rather than boosting my self-esteem as some have suggested - have further alienated me from my peers and made me feel different and weird about sex. I don’t like keeping secrets, and at that age, having to keep a secret about sex (beyond the usual not talking about my sexual yearnings to adults or … well, anyone) would likely have seriously screwed me up and tainted all future relationships.
I suppose it’s theoretically possible that the teacher in question (and there wasn’t any actual teacher I was even mildly attracted to in high school AFAIR) could have guided me through the experience in such a way that it would have been a positive experience, but that presupposes a wise, caring, and emotionally intelligent teacher, not the kind who sleeps with her students. So no, no good outcome possible.
