I’m thinking this is the right forum to ask this.
A male friend was saying his wife was going through menopause and flipped out the other day, including accusing him of cheating just because he went to the store to get bread.
Now, I started menopause 9 years ago, and my first symptom was forgetfulness, the second, hot flashes. I’ve never gotten “hormonal” or emotional, never even been PMSing.
Is this a thing where women do get hormonal during menopause? I’m thinking its not so prevalent as believed, and thought it was a bit stereotypical for him to say that.
I’m of the opinion that peri/post-menopausal symptoms such as hot flashes and forgetfulness etc. are irritating, and irritated people are inclined to show their irritation in ways typical for them in particular. Someone who’s insecure will have said insecurities magnified when irritated.
Don’t know how prevalent it is. In my vastly limited experience, it has been known to occur, to varying degrees. Best practice consists of liberal application of [ul][li]Patience []Understanding []Chocolate[/ul]not necessarily in that order.[/li]
Regards,
Shodan
I’m thinking there are a lot bigger issues in that relationship than menopause.
I recently hit menopause, and before I went on estrogen, I was planning to talk to my doctor about going on Prozac. My primary symptom was that I felt emotionally fragile, and tended to flip out from stresses that I felt I ought to be able to roll with. I realized an hour after taking my first estrogen tablet that I’d been suffering from significant PMS for about a year.
So from my small sample-size, I’d say it’s possible.
On the other hand, accusing your husband of cheating on you when he goes to the store isn’t about PMS, that’s about not trusting your husband. I cried when there was no milk for breakfast, and couldn’t sleep for a week after an unpleasant experience with sedation I was given for an endoscopy. I didn’t accuse my husband of cheating.
I agree that there’s more going on. I was a little shorter-tempered, but about things like accidentally whacking my hand on the doorknob or losing my keys. Sounds like he might be trying to gaslight her?
Estrogen is wonderful. I’ve been taking it on and off for years. My gyno said not to do it on and off but I was only off a month or two. It improves your mood and I’m on the lowest dose.
Menopause makes me more irritable and labile in and of itself. I also have hot flashes etc. Mostly I’m just quicker to fantasize about punching everyone around me.
Sounds like me. 
I think I was touchier, for want of a better word during my periods (before) and menopause (after), but, like you said, less willing to suffer fools. My primary menstrual physical issue was migraines, and now that I’m through (I hope) menopause, I still get them occasionally, but I get fewer, less extreme ones. But major mood swings and paranoid ideation? Nah.
My BIL was ready to commit my Sister to a pysche ward. She had taken to throwing things at him. Cans of peas, the TV remote and one especially memorable open beer can.
He finally convinced her to see her gyno. Night and Day after the estrogen kicked in.
So, yes I think it can affect you emotionally. My Sister has always had a quick temper but acting so abusivally was unlike her.
I just became officially post-menopausal, thank You Freya!
Yeah, I was pissed off a lot during it, but I think I’ve always been pissed off, and I just could suppress it better when I was younger.
Most of my symptoms were physical. A joint would get so painful that I couldn’t move that limb. I thought it was gout, but who gets gout in their shoulders? Then I read that fluctuating hormone levels can make your joints freeze up.
But paranoia? No.
I’ve still got some time before I go through menopause.
But even birth control pills don’t spare me from hormonal fluctuations. I always know when my breakthrough bleeding (also known as “not-a-real-period-but-might-as-well-be”) is about to arrive. I tend to get really anxious.
Like, I’ll mentally ruminate over a joke I made in a staff meeting, wondering if it could be misconstrued the wrong way. Or I’ll worry that there’s no more food left in my cat’s automatic feeder and that I’ll come home to find him suffering from fatty liver disease.
Rarely are my fears totally irrational. But sometimes they knock on the door of paranoia. It was worse when I wasn’t on birth control pills, though.
As much I hate having periods, I’m so not looking forward to menopause.
Estrogen saved my life, the lives of strangers, and our relationship.
Oh fuck yeah. I am (was) extremely even keeled emotionally-my husband and all previous bfs pointed that out (‘wow you’re so much less dramatic/emotional/mercurial/etc than previous gfs’). However, menopause sent me on a roller coaster ride emotionally. At the time, I felt that I was reacting rationally to all the annoying people in my presence. But in retrospect, I was psycho!!!
I am now on HRT (estrogen, estradial, progesterone, and testosterone) and am feeling 100% again.
And fyi, if your libido has suffered a setback, then testosterone is your BFF. I’ve never been hornier!
Hello sister.
Going from the following sleep pattern: go to bed, fall asleep, wake up at 5am, to the following ones: go to bed, turn and flip and flop and turn, fall asleep, wake up at oh-god am to pee, fall asleep until 5am OR go to bed, turn and flip and flop and turn, fall asleep, wake up at oh-god am to pee, be incapable of falling asleep again… well, yeah, I’d say that’s had a negative effect on my moods!
But I don’t suspect anybody of cheating that I didn’t already suspect of cheating. That is a different problem.
Yeah, I had severely disrupted sleep patterns which definitely made me irritable (having to deal with multiple family deaths for a couple years didn’t help either) but I wasn’t going around accusing people of cheating, throwing things, or otherwise acting out of control.
Right. I’m just unpleasant to be with, but don’t suspect anyone of finding a more pleasant companion.
:lol:
Oh yeah, I also woke up 1-4 times each night to pee. The estrogen fixed that, too. If that’s your primary problem, there are ways to provide estrogen locally to those tissues, and not mess with your whole body: creams and vaginal rings.
I am really not looking forward to the day my doctor decides I’m too old to take supplemental estrogen.
I’ve read some good books which state you Can keep taking it, no matter your age depending on: Your blood pressure being okay, no smoking at all, etc.
This sounds like an interesting tale…?