Married sex?
Rape?
I agree with that… the physical sexual drive is almost independent of that part of our mind that judges appropriateness and Whether The Relationship Would Actually Work.
“You will check out everyone you see…
And you will never heave…”
I always thought that a “friend with benefits” was someone with whom you had (or had had) no deeper relationship.
I have never heard of “courtesy sex”. Maybe it’s a Montréal thing.
[sub]Or maybe those almost-unbelievable rumours are true and the rest of the country really does hate Torontonians…[/sub]

Originally, when I was typing, I had Guy #2 say something more mysogynist and TMI, and skeeved myself out. ZJ
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What is it called when you don’t really feel like having sex, but you do because it’s less trouble to just do it than to argue about it?
There’s an answer to this – I want to see if anyone knows it.
Heh, I’m sure I’ve received my share of this sort of sex. We usually don’t argue though. It’s more like, I start grabbing things, she realizes that if she wants to watch uninterupted TV she’s going to have to get “rid” of me. So after a quickie she’s back to watching TV while I’m getting off the floor.
What is it called when you don’t really feel like having sex, but you do because it’s less trouble to just do it than to argue about it?
There’s an answer to this – I want to see if anyone knows it.
“So I knew I had to get out of there right away, so I just gave him head and went home. No, wait, HEAR ME OUT! I knew it would take less time to just do that and leave then it would be to talk my way out of the situation. I’m not a slut, I’m a TIME-SAVER.” - Margaret Cho
I’ve only heard the term “grudge fuck” once before this thread and it was from a complete pig of a dorm roommate. He couldn’t understand that I didn’t want to screw my very pretty acquaintance. I said I didn’t really have much respect for her sexual habits rather keep her as just a friend. So he asked, “Well why don’t you grudge-fuck her?” The way he said it made my skin crawl.
As for “Sympathy tail” as I’ve heard of it, it would be worse for me if I found out that she screwed me out of pity rather than real lust.
Haha, I’ve done the grudge-fuck thing and the sympathy-fuck thing, although alcohol is usually involved in those circumstances.
I’m so glad not to be single anymore. I don’t know how to behave.

Heh, I’m sure I’ve received my share of this sort of sex. We usually don’t argue though. It’s more like, I start grabbing things, she realizes that if she wants to watch uninterupted TV she’s going to have to get “rid” of me.
“Love… Soft as an easy chair…”
What is it called when you don’t really feel like having sex, but you do because it’s less trouble to just do it than to argue about it?
I was going for “marriage”. WhyNot was correct. MannyL, rape? I don’t see that at all. Who’s raping whom? badmana, you’ve obviously been there (made me laugh). matt_mcl, Margaret has obviously been there too.
I had this friend, a real doofus. I mean this guy was pretty dorky and pathetic and socially retarded. But overall a goiod guy until he went nuts.
Anyway at one point he was in the army and came home for like 2 weeks. I was dating a girl at the time and he wanted me to hook him up with someone. So i hooked him up with this other girtl I was acquainted with. She had always been interested in me but i never really wanted to date her or anything.
Well we went out… he did his typical boneheaded thing trying to impress her or look cool.
We went our separate ways and the next day he called me to say that they had their fling and he liked her a lot.
I talked to her later and she said she was “doing her part for the men in uniform” and that it was a pity-fuck.
I never talked to her much after that
I think I’ve had “What the hell, I’ll give this pathetic lump a lil’ sumpin because I’m horny too” sex. Which really probably is a pity fuck. It was only after long ardent pursuit on my part and I actually wanted the whole deal…relationship, kids, etc… I’ll take what I can get though. No shame, a few regrets.
Grudge fuck - I don’t know about people having sex with people they hate, but I have a close female friend who’s had the other kind of grudge fuck several times – having sex with someone to spite someone else. She’s a great friend and a terrible lover, and thankfully we’ve never crossed that line.
Pity fuck - Haven’t quite seen examples of this, per se.
Courtesy fuck - My most meaningful relationship right now started out with a courtesy fuck. I had no intentions to have sex with her – one second we were making out and it seemed like the next second we were naked on the bed. (I was always a little skeptical about whether things really ever worked out this way, until I did it that way myself.) At that point I analyzed my situation (it’s notable that, as one might expect, I was tripping face at the time) and decided: I’m on my bed, naked, with a girl who’s mildly attractive and a good friend; the next logical step, it seemed, was to insert slot A into slot B. So we did, and I figured it’d be a one-time thing, but it turned out to be a surprisingly fulfilling and meaningful relationship. “Technically” friends-with-benefits, but in reality I think it’s a fair bit more to both of us.