Make up sex. We all know what make-up sex is and many consider that the best kind of sex, but you have to have a passionate fight in order to have a passionate make-up session.
Conjugal visit sex. I could see that being way sexy if I was the inmate and knew that this would be the only normal sex act I would be getting until the next conjugal visit. I could also see how this would be sexy for the visitor, because that person would know that he/she was being asked to give lovin’ to an inmate that knows the provider is the person he/she thought of when choosing whom to have the sex with.
Pity/Charity sex. When you give sex to someone to whom is way out of your league. I have done this one once. She was very depressed about herself and wanted to feel that she was sexy. She worked really hard to make me feel good and was the best lover I ever had in my life. Alas, it was a one night stand, but she soon found a new lover and was much happier about herself.
Grudge f**k. Not when the SO cheats on you. This is a different realm. This is when you let your girlfriend borrow your truck and she comes back and it has a long scratch on it. In this case, you pick someone up and know that you did it to get back at her. Or say, he forgot you birthday and goes camping or hunting with his buddies. You decide to sleep with someone to get the upper hand. Or it could even be that your supervisor gave you a bad eval, so you sleep with her boyfriend.
To me, the grudge fuck has to be the sexiest. There is no emotion between you and the recipient. Only between you and the SO. You would want to make the subject of the act feel so good that he/she would brag about it forever.
Oh, man, that’s like picking the best flavor of ice cream! If I’m having it, it’s by definition all good!
But one you didn’t mention is no-strings-attached buddy sex. I love that. It’s a rare breed, 'cause usually someone has or develops “feelings” that screw it up, but true honest recreational sex without all the tedious arguments over who did the dishes last or why you didn’t call me Friday night is really awesome.
And, at the other end of the spectrum, “routine” married sex. There’s something really wonderful in having sex with someone who knows me and my body so well that there’s no awkwardness, no inhibition, no elbows in the wrong place at the wrong time. Boring? Yeah, sometimes, but always satisfying, too.
Only once or twice I’ve had what I call “Spirit Sex”: that transcendental mind blowing zen sex where I’m one with the universe and so is he and we’re one with each other as well, and that’s…well, it’s just mind-blowing.
I’ve never had it myself. But I have to suspect that “here’s five thousand dollars and show me what you got” sex must be pretty good. After all, these women have repeat customers.
This reminds me of a Cosmo headline I once saw: “THE SEXIEST THING TO DO AFTER SEX!” I sort of wondered if the article just said “HAVE SEX AGAIN!” in 72-point type. And then I thought, gee, how typically female to want to do something sexy after sex.
I definately can’t agree with grudge sex… although after breaking up with someone, sex with another woman is pretty sweet. If it’s a bad break up, it’s better, if the break up wasn’t too bad, then meh.
I would have to say the “I’ve been craving sex with you for years and FINALLY got it” is pretty sweet. The old “waking up in the middle of the night with a hard on so hard it hurts sex” is fantastic too (as mentioned by another user here…)
Make up sex for me, oh I really took it to the max when I know I screwed up. After her long day at work… at least a half hour foot message followed by a half hour back rub…followed by brushing of her hair.
Usually she would forgive me after this, so sex would ensue. I’m a wimp and I hate sleeping on the couch. What can I say?
The sexiest sex I ever had came after months of frustrated longing. MONTHS of significant looks, where the brush of a finger or the nudge of a foot under the table spoke volumes. It all exploded (so to speak) one winter night, and it was fucking hot.
Sometimes the pleasure really is all the greater for being deferred.
The best sex I’ve ever had was “make-up” sex, so I guess that’s where I cast my vote. Then again, that’s sort of the only way my then-SO really got passionate, was when he got angry, so there you go. Maybe, once I’ve had a little more relationship experience, I’ll think differently…
I agree with whoever said pure old recreational sex with a fuckbuddy is pretty good, but then I’ve never been married or in a significantly long enough relationship to reach that very comfortable stage of having routine sex to know if it’s any/much better.
My own personal one - taking viagra and fucking the shit out of the guy all night sex (which also included two separate incidents of waking up with hard on - must use! sex).
To each his own, I guess, but to me, those two ideas are so unsexy that my vagina just clamped shut.
I don’t have to love someone to have sex with him. Hell, I don’t even have to like him much. But in those two instances, not only is it not about the person you’re having sex with, it’s not even about sex.
I’ll second **HazelNutCoffee’s ** recommendation of sex deferred, and add its opposite, the kind of “I must have you NOW” sex that leads to broken zippers, faces rubbed raw, and being banned from that particular bar for life.
Or in some cases, being kicked out of Denny’s. :smack: Well, why do they call it a “Grand Slam Breakfast,” then, huh?
Middle of the night is very good. I wonder if there’s something about the sleep cycle that lines up the hormones just right, making you hornier than a bandicoot. Or maybe it’s the lowered inhibitions?
Sex after a long separation, e.g. due to a business trip, is good too.
Well, why do they call it a “Grand Slam Breakfast,” then, huh?