this is about SEX!!!!(not for the easily offended)

I was just thinking last night, (imagine that) and I wanted your opinions.

Which one of the following do you think makes for a better romp in the hay?

  1. Relationship sex (you know, the lurve thang)

  2. Make up sex (ten minutes ago you wanted to rip his or her face off but now instead you’re sitting on it)

3.Break up sex (you and your ex go for one last romp on the night of the break or you see him or her at a party one night after too many bourbons and… you know…)

Which do you think is best?

My apologies if I have been too crude or offensive. :slight_smile:

I pick none of the above, or maybe the first part of 1. My fav is the beginning sex of the permanent true love. That feeling of Zen oneness is great. Once reality sets in, it’s never the same, but it’s still the best. I really think the best you can get is to be with someone you know & trust, but they can still keep you interested in finding out more.
I have never been interested in makeup sex, I guess none of my relationships have been geared for that. I’ve talked to men & women who have agreed & disagreed with me on that one.
I’ve never liked breakup sex, one person usually wanted it to be a new beginning, the other was just on the way out & tripped.

IMHO, relationship sex is the best, when it’s that love thang.

I’d say 1. (Or, the intense build up leading to sex for the first time with someone you are forming a strong and deep relationship with.) But, then I may not be the best person to answer this as my experience is rather limited in this regard.

I’ve never fought with someone to the point of wanting to rip their face off without being at the point of walking away from the whole relationship, so I’ve never had make-up sex. If I’m that angry, I want to be alone, not having sex with the object of my aggrevation. And, to be honest, I’ve never had break up sex. If it’s over, what’s the point of trying to recreate/relive something that is history? Guess I just never saw the point of 3.

[sub]'Course sex with friends can be quite enjoyable.[/sub]

IMHO.

Oh, # 3 has to be the best of all…IMHO of course! It’s the one with no expectations, and plenty of promise for the future…with someone else!!

because sometimes it’s tender and loving and sweet…and sometimes it’s mind-blowingly explosively pornographically good.

you can tell i miss irishfella, can’t you!

I’ll take 1 for passion, trust, variety, and joy. After my engagment ended, I did try 3 in an attempt to get him back, and, while the sex was as good as ever, I felt foolish afterwards and had a few regrets.

CJ

I’ve never understood “make up” sex. Sex is special enough that it shouldn’t be clouded by other emotions, it seems.

And I really can’t understand “break up” sex. You dislike the person enough that you don’t want to be with them ever again, yet you would sleep with them…? I just don’t understand.

Ooooh Yeah, I’d go with that! :smiley:

I don’t argue with people, so I never had the chance to do “make-up” sex, and if I split up with someone I never want to see them again, so I don’t get the opportunity for “break-up” sex either.

Nothing beats “missed you” sex. When you’ve been apart for a while and then you finally get some time alone. ROWR!

“Passion” has many forms. Anger is a visceral, “passionate” emotion.

“Make up sex” occurs when two people have been together for awhile and trust one another, that “passion” of anger can set off the libido like crazy, in a very animal kind of way. One second you’re yelling about who was supposed to do the laundry, the next you’re rolling on the flor together.

“Break up sex” (on the eve of the break up) is similar. An expression of “passion” that also has a “nothing-to-lose” quality. DeepPruple I’ve known people who had “break up sex” and neither of the two ever had deluded themself into thinking it was a “new beginning.” It was just unbridled passion that was fueled with the Dark Side of the Force: anger, grief and a sense of disappointment that they really had the hots for each other but couldn’t make things work out (because though they had the hots for each other, they were otherwise incompatible).

“Break up sex” long after the fact is no different than a casual fling. I don’t think it really fits into the catergory propsed by the OP actually.

You forgot two types.

“Reunion sex”. You haven’t seen each other in several years and decided to have one fling for old time’s sake. My oh my, look what you two have learned since the last time!

“One-night stand.” Sex for the sheer sake of sex. Not thinking about anything other than feeling good and making the other person feel good.

I’m not expressing a preference here, just adding some options.

In my opinion relationship sex is the best. The emotional input is wonderful. Physical and emotional pleasure culminate into one act. There is none better.

One night stand sex is also pretty good. However, it lacks the emotional side. It is just physical pleasure with no attachments.

I would much rather have an endless supply of relationship sex rather than an endless supply of one-night stand sex.

In my opinion relationship sex is the best. The emotional input is wonderful. Physical and emotional pleasure culminate into one act. There is none better.

One night stand sex is also pretty good. However, it lacks the emotional side. It is just physical pleasure with no attachments.

I would much rather have an endless supply of relationship sex rather than an endless supply of one-night stand sex.

If I had to choose from the first three options in the OP I’d choose #1. I’ve never understood make-up sex or break-up sex either so I can’t pick them and being with the one you love is a wonderful feeling.

I like Legomancer’s suggestions though. “Reunion sex” can be incredible!! I dated this one guy when I was 16 (he was 19)… we only dated for 2-3 months and after we broke up I didn’t see him again for 8 years. We started dating again when I was 24 and he was 27 and OMG the sex was soooooooo fantastic!! It was definitely better than it was when we were teenagers… we’d both learned lots of new things. :slight_smile:

I’m all for “one-night stand” sex too. Sometimes you need that skin-on-skin contact with no obligations or emotional attachments to the person you’re with.

There’s a lot to be said for Revenge Sex! When you date somebody who’s just had a bad break-up, the anger toward the ex adds an incredible intensity to the sex. When you find an opportunity like that, do not pass it up.

Number 1 is best for me. Followed closely by 2. 2 takes second because, even though it’s technically “make-up” sex, I’m probably still pissed off and feel that I’m still right but had give up to have sex.

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Originally posted by Tir Tinuviel

Nothing beats “missed you” sex. When you’ve been apart for a while and then you finally get some time alone. ROWR!

YEAH!

Well said.

I think that good sex must include the mind as well as the body.
Make up sex is great sometimes but only about once every 2 years.

Screw that “tender loving, sweet stuff” mentioned! The best has got to be Number 2. Because it already confirms that you have a “loving” relationship, you just got emotional and had and arguement, now time to reaffirm that relationship with extra passion! Passion, baby – that’s what it’s all about…Nice raw f**ing…