I was reading an article in the New York times about the Afghan earthquake. Apparently a lot of women aren’t getting rescued or getting medical care because the men won’t touch women who are strangers.
I guess if it were ZPG Zealot you guys would be out of luck.
I see she hasn’t posted. Last year I think, she said she was so upset by the boards criticism she ended up in the ER.
Despite and feelings about her posting style, I sincerely hope she is ok.
But, you just can’t let a bunch of online strangers affect you that much. It’s not healthy.
While I don’t wish her personal ill, she’s also a poster who gets little benefit of the doubt from me about something like ending up in the ER due to online criticism here.
Is it possible? Absolutely. But from a poster known for getting defensive and also for commonly exaggerating? Also absolutely Boy who Cried Wolf territory
She’s still reading. Hasn’t posted in two days, but was seen an hour ago.
I certainly don’t want her to have a health crisis. I don’t even want to “run her off the board”. But the pit is provided so that you have a place to vent about stupid/evil things people have said. At some time or another just about anyone here can be on the giving or the receiving end of it. For someone to claim to be so emotionally fragile that you must walk on eggshells and never give pushback on the things that they say is pretty problematic.
I don’t stalk her, I never even open a thread started by her if I see that she is the OP and mostly just scroll right past her posts in threads without interacting with her at all. But she was directly interacting with me in the thread that caused me to bump this pit thread. Let’s examine that more closely:
1.) OP asks 1.) Where are these flies coming from 2.) How can I stop them from coming back 3.) How can I kll them.
2.) I and other people ask what type of flies they are.
3.) Beck asks why someone would need to know what kind of fly you have, just hit them once or twice with a fly swatter.
4.) I explain that knowing what kind of fly have matters because it helps answer the OPs questions and explain why. (I mentally add a “you moron” at the end, strongly consider finishing the sentence in the pit thread then, and decide to let it go.)
5.) She doubles down with “you don’t kneed to know what you have”. Which is the polar opposite of trying to help the OP with their questions about where they come from and how to prevent them from coming back. It is saying that the OPs questions don’t even matter: flies iz flies, just hit 'em with a stick. That overcame my reluctance to bring it to the pit from the first anti-helpful comment.
Would I feel bad that my bump of the pit thread precipitated her abandoning her emotional outlet entirely? Yes, a little. Do I regret calling her out on her bullshit? No, I don’t. She doesn’t get to be the one single poster on this board that has to be treated like she can do no wrong out of fear of brusing her ego.
I like Beck as a person, but not as a poster in a thread where someone needs correct information.
My advice for her would be to wait a day before jumping into a thread. See if other people who have more experience with the problem have answered the question, and by then the issues will be more defined.
I have a friend who just HAS to jump into any discussion. Someone’s giving a review of a new restaurant? He’s got to interrupt, to mention minor reasons why he’ll probably never go there.
I found this for him… reminds me of Beck, too:
About as useful as someone giving a one-star Amazon review to an electronics item because it took too long to receive it.
Here at the SDMB, we’d call a post like this a blatant threadshit.
I’m afraid I have to disagree (if you mean the type of post that Jackmannii is describing). A threadshit post is one that says something like “I don’t know why anyone is bothering about this, it’s completely stupid,”
Well, I had two or threads about bands/musicians where some dork came in and posted something like “who the fuck are you talking about?”, and it was modded as threadshits. That’s comparable to the post about the restaurant the poster never has heard of.
For continually posting bad medical advice, in parcicular.
You do understand that your previous post just referred to “a post like this” without saying which post you were referring to, which happened to be two posts above yours. It could have been the post immediately above yours. I attribute this to Discourse’s annoying habit of not attributing the reply to its original, when the original was the last post when they started to type the reply. I hope I make myself clear.
Now that I know which post you were talking about, I withdraw my disagreement.
Ah, yes. Quite entertaining. And there was “umkay” now those threads were fantastic bathroom reading.
…. I vaguely recall someone obsessed with aliens and cow mutilations? Can’t be arsed to search for them now, but that was some “double down on my opinions” on a whole ‘nuther level.
That was entertaining! Cattle mutes was indeed her game, but she didn’t reveal (or know) much. Between that and ZPG’s posts, I’ve spent a lot of time laughing at old ‘alumni’… maybe it’s time to read some Sampiro, too…
Don’t skimp on ralph124.
He had a plan to build a ski lift to the top of Everest.
We had a bigger nut tackle that, the late but not great SamuelA:
Order your food. If it comes wrong. Tell your server after taking a picture, at what ever is wrong.
If they fix it or comp it, good. Go home happy.
If it’s not fixed, tell the hostess when you pay. Go home leave bad reviews on their site and Yelp. If it’s a franchise, drop a note to corporate. ETA: don’t tip
Oh, that last part. Yay.
This is part of why restaurant culture in ‘Murrica is so effed up.
Oh, wait, it’s the Pit.
It’s fucked up. FUCKED THE FUCK UP.
ETA: someone else made a boo-booo and now we ALL pay for their mistake?
You do know tips are shared, yes? Or if not, or you didn’t know that was a thing, please stop talking about restaurants and their workers, you clearly are out of your depth.
ETA 2: nobody pays the hostess.
Every time I see some comment saying not to tip I think about all of the restaurants in which I’ve ever eaten (a metric shit-ton) and if there were any times where I thought no tip was warranted. I’ve had slow service, I’ve had messed up orders, I’ve sat with empty drinks for way too long, and I’ve had disinterested service. It never crossed my mind not to tip as I know they are making 2.13 an hour. Now, I might not tip them the 25-30% I typically tip, but they’re not getting less than 15-18%. To do otherwise is to take their money. If I get a shitty sales guy at the appliance store, I don’t get to garnish his wages for helping another customer instead of me, even if I was there first.
Heh, when I sat for 30 minutes or so while our waiter sat at an adjacent booth and talked with his friends before taking our order and our food was brought out cold, I thought simply walking on the check was appropriate. The dipshit wasn’t paying enough attention to notice us leaving, after all. But it wasn’t worth that bother, and I just stiffed them on the tip.
If a salesman treated me that way, I’d go to a competing store. I know I’ve turned my back on car salesman for less.