Ah, one more piece of financial advice (sorry if it seems cold, but this stuff is really not self explanatory). You’ll receive bills upon bills from the hospital. Don’t pay them when you first get them: many of these will be paid by Medicare and insurance but it can take a while for it to process. (I mention this because some families pay out thousands of dollars, much of which they then can’t get back.)
Take a vacation in a few weeks.
Note, too, that life insurance policies are not attachable by credit companies or bill collectors. Your mother’s beneficiaries cannot be made to pay any of her outstanding bills from that money. However, if there are bank accounts, 401k plans, pensions, or property, those funds are considered part of the estate and can be attached.
I’m gonna make it.
I’m gonna have bad nights, now & 10 years from now, but I’m gonna make it.
I think you’ll surprise yourself. It’s less than one year after my father’s death and I’ve mourned and remembered the positive. Been angry, and accepted the parts of me I got from him. I’m not done with the grief, and it shows up at the oddest times, but it’s okay. I wasn’t ready to grow up this much this young, but he prepared me well for it.
I expect the same could be said for you. Personally, I’ve made it my mission to make sure my kids miss the hell out of me when I’m gone.
Bosda, ever since my father died in 1989, I’ve seen little reminders of him in different places – an old sign in a shop, a farmer’s wit, a song from the Thirties…It’s almost like a wink and a smile. May you find these reminders of your mom at just the right times in your life.
I wish you peace and a chance to catch your breath again.
How did I survive her loss?
It can be so lonely without her.
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I’m sorry you’re having a hard time right now.