Mom: Shut your mouth! Enough!

The BBQ Pit
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My mom and I briefly worked at the same place. The employees are primariliy middle-aged women, and there’s a lot of gossip that goes around. Of course my mom gossips about me to the other employees, and of course she exaggerates. I’ve confronted her several times about this and asked her not to do it. It’s unfair to me. Also, why does the volunteer coordinator need to know I have two kidney stones? And stuff of that nature.

So over the summer I broke up with a boy I had been seeing for 3.5 years. I started seeing another boy from work, initially just for fun, but it turned out I got more attatched to him than I had anticipated.

So naturally, the gossip mill has plenty of new fodder.

Actually, it wasn’t too bad. Until tonight.

I go to school, so I’ve been away from the boy I’ve been seeing. Tonight he went out with some people from work (the under-30 crowd, which consists of few members). He comes back and tells me he’s confused about something my mom said…

Apparently my mom told some dude at work that she thought it was funny how I’m seeing the new guy even though I’m not over the old boyfriend.

WHAT? WHAT??

Where the fuck did she get that? That is completely contrary to everything I’ve been telling her for the past several months. I complained to her about the old boyfriend for months before I actually broke up with him.

Why the fuck would she lie about me to a co-worker? Why is she even talking to co-workers about me in the first place when I explicitly asked her not to several times.

Believe me, she’s getting a phone call first thing tomorrow morning. I have half a mind to call her what night and ask what the fuck is up, but it’s 1:30 am and fortunately for her I have a little more courtesy than she does.

I’m so mad I can barely think.

P.S. I’m also pissed at the dickhead who thought that it was a good idea to tell this to my new boyfriend on a night when they were supposed to be out having fun. Guh? Fucking morons.

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It is always possible that your mom is inventing juicy stuff to have something to bring to the gossip exchange,

BUT,
is it not also possible that the story actually originated with the twit that passed the “news” to your new boyfriend and your mom’s name was thrown in to make the story sound more believable?

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After talking with the new boyfriend, he believes me and he doesn’t want to stop seeing me based on what my mom made up. Which is very comforting to know. But my mom is still getting a phone call bright and early tomorrow morning.

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Nope. I completely understand what you mean. But given my mom’s previous record, it’s completely believable that she would do something like this. The other guy, while thick-skulled and possibly socially inept, isn’t quite so malicious.

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What is it with mothers and exagerating or otherwise fictionalising stories? This pisses me off so damn much, especially when I’m in the room when my mum is telling her changed version of events and if I say anything apparently I’m “being rude”…

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This is why I never tell my mom anything about my love life (except for stuff that she couldn’t help noticing for herself, e.g. if I’m bringing a boyfriend along for a family get-together), even though we’re currently on separate continents. Loose lips sink relationships.

Just because one’s mom is a wonderful person and loves one with all her heart doesn’t automatically mean that she’s any good at confidentiality or discretion. AS, if your mom doesn’t see or can’t fix the problem after your phone call, you will just have to start leaving her out of the loop when it comes to your personal life.

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Alright, here’s an update for anyone who cares.

Looks like tomwas right.

I couldn’t fall asleep until 7 am, that’s how pissed I was. I called my mom at 10 am, and she said that she had said she’s glad that I’m still friends with the old boyfriend so that he could still fix our computer.

My mom also said (and I confirmed this with someone who knows the dickhead really well) that dickhead tends to spin people’s stories and then pass them along. He has problems talking to women, so he’s always lonely, and he wants everyone else to be lonely with him. So he was trying to get my current boyfriend to break up with me.

So everything’s alright now with me and current boyfriend and mom. Current boyfriend and I can even joke about it, like, “Dickhead told me you were a devil-worshipper… you mean you aren’t?”

I haven’t gotten the chance to talk things out with Dickhead. But he definitely owes me an apology, and I won’t be so quick to forgive him. He needs to learn how to act like an adult.

So, in short, tomndebb was right. He knew my situation better than I did. Heh.