I’m new here, but have seen people post a variety of topics, so I thought I’d post this here, where I can enjoy relative anonymity.
When I was growing up, my father allegedly had a number of extramarital affairs. My mother was always somewhat bitter about this and did not hide her suspicions, nor her reaction to them. They divorced many years ago, but she’ll still bring it up from time to time.
However, about 4 years ago, she began having an affair with a married man. She completely justifies this. The man she is involved with was actually her first high school boyfriend (many moons ago). They ran into each other at their 40th high school reunion, corresponded in a friendly manner for a while, and then began having a sexual relationship. She feels that he is her ‘lost love’, that she deserves happiness (even at another woman’s expense) and that what the man’s wife does not know won’t hurt her.
OK. Maybe, but all of that is a stretch to me. Still, I had begun to feel even somewhat sorry for her because, if she truly does love this man, then she is only getting part of what she wants (her own fault, I know, but still…)
I was pleased to find out that she had recently begun perusing personal ads for men her own age, and has been out a few times with a man whose company she seems to enjoy.
The catch? This other guy is married as well.
What the hell? Do you think she is just ‘returning to the scene of the crime’ (i.e., my father’s affairs, the ones which allegedly wounded her so) in an attempt to have some sort of control over the outcome? I don’t get it at all, nor do I know if I even have any respect for her left.
;j <—I just really wanted to use that icon.