It just kills me to have to post this, but Tatertot (a.k.a. Tracy) has asked me to tell you that she had a miscarriage last night.
There is no Shakespearean quote I can offer, no proverb, saying, or song lyric that can obviate the pain she and her husband are feeling right now, nor the sorrow that posting these words will cause among the kind hearts who frequent this message board.
Is there anything sadder than a baby who never got it’s chance to enrich, and be enriched, by this world?
I would be remiss if I did not pass along Tracy’s heartfelt gratitude for your kind concerns.
In her own words: “Please, please let everybody know how much their thoughts and prayers have meant to me. I know that we lost the baby, but knowing that so many people were there for us gave me the strength to make it through these terrible days.”
She has been through so much, and she has to be strong for her five year old son, whose birthday is in a week.
Please remember Tracy and her dear family in your thoughts and prayers.
Dear Tatertot: I can only imagine the grief you are experiencing. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
Everyone else: I’m sure everyone knows enough not to say things like “you can always adopt” or “you can always try again later”.
The fact is, Tatertot and her family are grieving the baby that did not arrive, the little boy or girl they never got to know. This was not some interchangeable thing that can easily be replaced, but a little person that was coming, that they were anticipating the arrival of, and who they will now never meet.
A few of my friends have gone through just such a tragedy. It’s as bad as losing a baby because it is losing a baby, just one that hadn’t gotten out of the womb yet. There is much to grieve, including every anticipated hope and joy that now can not be.
Tatertot, I am so sorry. I don’t now what else to say. If you ever need to talk, just email me. I’ve been where you are, and I know how much it hurts.
Rose
Oh Tracy. Hugs is about all I can offer. This is not a lost opportunity to love. Your strength and compassion as a mother and cohesiveness as a family are unassailed. We all know that a caring, motherly nature cannot be taken away. That the love you share enriches the world. Please know that the rest of us appreciate that.
tatertot, although “I am sorry” just doesn’t seem to cover it, I seem to be at a loss for any other words right now. My condolences to you and your family.