I managed to get myself into a bind and I’m looking for some advice.
I got a girl’s number last weekend and after texting her on Monday and Tuesday I called her on Wednesday. We had a good conversation so I asked her out for this Saturday. I didn’t realize that Saturday was Valentine’s day until I was talking to a coworker about weekend plans.
This brings me to my question. I was just planning on a basic first date, meet for coffee then walking around downtown and either check out some art galeries or go to a pool hall. My buddy seems to think that this is going to ruin my date since she will expect that a valentines date will be more.
I assumed since you did ask her out, you are at least attracted to her. I’d skip the pool hall, but the rest sounds fairly good. Lunch or dinner would also be nice. And at least get her a rose.
“Hey, when I asked you out, I had a coffee shop and gallery tour in mind, but seeing as it’s Valentine’s Day, did you want to do something else, something special? I’m open to anything.”
She probably is aware what day it is and might be anticipating some first-date acknowledgement of it. But on the other hand, she may not want you to make a big deal out of it, since it is only your first date. You probably don’t know her well enough yet to make assumptions about this sort of thing.
I like the idea of a rose since it’s also a fairly common first date idea. My only problem with asking her is that between sleeping in tomorrow and going to practice I’ll only have a couple of hours to change my plans if she expects more which kind of defeats the purpose.
I’d do all the stuff you said you were going to do, with the exception of the pool hall, unless she’s actually into pool. I wouldn’t make a big deal about it being valentine’s day either. And, yes, don’t forget the rose.