More SLK baby mama drama...

The BBQ Pit
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There’s more, wanna hear more?

New kind, she owed me money, and finally delivered it.

Overhand into my face. I’ve been demoted, today I’m only a creep. A creep who ‘needs to stay out of her life.’ I used to be the Anti-Christ.

I started laughing at her when she called to tell me I’d better be on the way, after Emma told her about being in the car 3 blocks away. She heard me laughing on speakerphone. She asked why, and I told her that I found it childish and redundant to tell me to do what I was doing, just to be telling me.

I’m the one who’s unecessary and redundant, sez she. And good luck ever getting Emma again.

“Oh? Do you prefer I file in Arizona or California?”

She wished me good luck. Her Family has lawyers, you know.

This was after she threw the money in my face. I laughed at that, too. We had exchanged middle fingers first off as I drove up.

I was civil, used no foul language, called no names. I’m a creep that way, I guess.

$20 gas, $5 beer, $10 pocket money. She’d owed me this since April.

Also got another delinquent account to pay up, Western Union. $105 my way for some phone calls and past good will, so to speak.

But, back to my creepy redundancy…

“No, you needed my help to do that.” I pointed to Emma. I got in my car and started blasting Kid Rock as I backed out.

“Love you, Holly!” I called as I drove off, still laughing.

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All this was done by both of you, in front of a child? Or am I mis-reading somehow?

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It’s a perfectly cromulent OP. Why, I’ve not read such a comprehensive and succinct Pit OP since the yellow farm daisy flew junk tease watermelon, wot-wot?

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What do you want, a medal? For acting like a jerk in front of your kid? For $35? Maybe some day you will grow up and learn how to be a man and a father. Here’s hoping.

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Isn’t it romantic when two people who truly love each other have a child together, and then put that child’s interest first? When they never allow their personal differences to affect their child, and always put her interests before their petty squabbles? It warms the cockles of my heart, to see two sensible, clear headed people conceive a child, and then raise that child in an environment of dignity and mutual respect. Truly an inspiration to us all.

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I’m confused. Sounds like SLK was as civil as he could have been in the situation and didn’t really do anything too horrible (or really, horrible at all) in that story. What could he have done differently? It’s probably hard for anyone else to say unless they knew the circumstances or were there themselves.

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Why are you posting this on the internet, for the whole world to see? Dude, get some better hobbies…

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Thank you, I.T. I certainly thought so. See mentioning the debt was ‘starting up with her’.

The only way to get through to her is to yell over her. Sad, but true.

I’ve taken her shit meekly for seven years. She’s eroded and denied me my time (I’ve let her, for Emma’s sake, I thought) until she truly thinks she decides If or when I see my daughter.

She tried to deny me my weekend on saturday morning. I asked her again if she had the 35, I really needed it, I was sweating gas to get Emma there and back, then up to Paso on monday to get a check for last weeks temp work.

“If you don’t have any money, then she can’t go.”

Oh, no. No no no no no. Doesn’t matter broke, doesn’t matter behind in support money (which I’ve never been, BTW.), doesn’t matter homeless. That’s my time.

She is well supported by her family, Emma will never want for anything.

I’m about to go live in a tent, to make $487/mo. cover expenses after $266 for ‘child support’. This is so Holly can have cable for the food network. Rent’s covered by parents. Food’s covered by the State, Medical too. I’m her play money, and I need to go away, but send the money.

I’ve met her more than halfway, I’ve met her all the way to Cali.

She committed the only battery, throwing the money in my face.

I thanked her for the money.

Least I could do, I thought.

If you don’t have to go through this every time you see your child, Thank Og and all the little Oglets.

“People don’t know about the things I say and do.
They don’t understand, the shit that I been through.”
–Kid Rock.

So, fuck 'em. They don’t know the half of it.

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Well, I injure myself a lot, too. I really should be wearing a bike helmet.

Last month, I burned my thumb on a candle, then degloved myself, thinking that skin was parrafin.

This month, I stabbed myself with broken glass, washing dishes.

Stitches come out tomorrow.

This isn’t a hobby, it’s an avocation… working with single moms, helping them get their start.

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I detect sarcasm. No, I do.
That which is done for love is truly beyond good or evil.

And your name always screams ‘menstrual stain’ to me.

I live with what is, not what I want it to be.

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Your name will forever mean, “drunk guy who knocked up someone he hates and then yells at her in front of the kid over $35.” So, you know, if you think you’re witty by making fun of my user name, all I can say is… it’s fantastic to see grown men with the mentality of 7th graders trying to raise children.

Why did you have a baby with someone who is so obviously and utterly despicable? And why post about it as if you’re the victim on a message board? Is all you’ve got “poor me” and cracks about my name?

Yeah, that’s what I thought.

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I don’t want to get in a retarded slapfight with you, SLK, though it seems to be already in progress. What I do want you to understand is that you’re not going to get a lot of sympathy from me (or apparently other folks) if you admit to yelling at your ex in front of your kid over a small amount of money, flipping her the bird, threatening to sue, and other hostile behavior. Her being a bitch does not justify you acting like an asshole in front of your child. Take steps to be decent, or at least quiet, in front of your kid. Don’t loan your ex money-- do all your transactions through a lawyer. Get a social worker to be present during the transitions if you feel you need to. Just please, stop subjecting your kid to this bullshit. It ain’t good for her.

I hate when one person claims that the ex is an evil monster, the ultimate bitch/bastard, while he or she is the victim. You chose to get into a permanent, lifelong relationship with this person. That was your choice. So try harder not to blame it all on them, because you’re stuck with them, and hating them is also a reflection on your judgement and character.

End of rant, hope that we don’t have to continue the bitchfest beyond this.

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Since The Sonoran Lizard King has decided to take a break from the board and won’t be able to respond, I’m going to go ahead and close this thread.