FYI there is a wonderful definition for “slut” on that other thread.
As one of the posters who has discussed more of her sex life than almost anyone (save Satan) I really feel I have some background here.
Ah hem. I don’t do married people. I don’t do people who are involved. I don’t do anything involving children or animals. Other than that I’m fairly open.
Your sluttishness is for YOU to make the call on. So are your moral boundries. But you might want to think about a very simple idea: Don’t do anything to another that you wouldn’t like done to you.
I don’t fuck around with married people because I sure as shit wouldn’t want it done to me if I were a married person.
Forgive my spelling here, folks. I’m pressed for time.
I read what Satan posted and I understand that some people choose to live that way. Even with the partner’s permission I still wouldn’t. But hey, that’s just me.
I used that word because that was what my high school classmates called me. I really don’t think that I have had that much experience.
Please don’t even attempt to imply that you and I are in the same category. The point of my thread was that even though some people think that I have been promiscuous, I do not hurt people with my actions. At least, I try not to.
I once cheated on a guy. He found out about it, and was very deeply hurt. I consider it to be the single biggest mistake of my life. Even though he has forgiven me, I think of it everyday as a reminder of how easy it is to wreck the trust that someone has placed in you. It is something I will never do again.
You, on the other hand, find no shame in your actions. You don’t mind helping others destroy their vows, and you even allow your ex to share the blame for your actions. Well, guess what. It isn’t his fault. He may feel that it is, but unless he put a gun to your head and told you to fuck some other guy, it is YOUR fault and yours alone. Even if he was screwing every woman he met, your actions are still your responsibility, so accept it already.
And no, I don’t consider you a slut. I consider you a cold-hearted bitch.
Cessandra
Why sex is better than religion: You can scream “Oh, God” during sex, but just try saying “Oh, f***” in church!
Yeah, you’re a slut. A small time, part time slut, but still a slut.
The infidelity is different thing. Married people are married, getting pregnant is getting pregnant. Not the same thing as being a slut. When there are other people involved, it isn’t just sex, anymore.
Oh, Kelli:
I have turned down sexual relations with married women who have sex outside of their marriages on a regular basis, and don’t even live with their husbands. It isn’t what I want to do. I also won’t get into a relationship with a younger woman who I think ought to be looking for more than she can possibly get from me at this point in my life. She deserves more, even if she doesn’t realize it. The fact that I find her interest flattering is not an excuse to screw up her life with a relationship which can never be what she ought to find for herself. She might not know this is true, but ** I do. ** All popular mythology to the contrary not withstanding, men can say “No, I don’t want to have sex with you.”
I realize that this is a place where we’re all supposed to be honest, but frankly I’m a bit disappointed at those posters who not only openly admit to immoral acts, but then pull a Lewinsky and act like it’s no big deal. Have I done things that were immoral? Absolutely. But at least I have the humility to be ashamed of what I did.
If you want to be a “slut”, then go for it. It’s your life. But don’t expect everyone to applaud you.
Livin–
I doubt I could acuratly express how I feel about the tale you related. It’s one thing (IMO) to have sex with a lot of partners when you are un-attached. It’s an entirely different matter when you’re commited to someone. And I can’t even think of strong enough I am 27, and asked my fiance to marry me after 3 years of knowing her…why did I wait so long?..Because 1) I wanted to be sure that she was the “one” 2) Once I asked her, I was off the market. Totally, completly.
I may flirt a little on here, but I’ve made no secret of the fact that I’m engaged.
But I have slept with married women a few times. As I read some of the comments here about contributing to a break up in a relationship, I changed my stance a little…although I was much younger (19), I should have exercised more restraint and “Just said no”. However, I do believe that if you are married, those are your vows. And that I should not be responsible for you keeping them, or breaking them. While I should have said no, you should never have offered.
PunditLisa, Lewinsky was right. Those kinds of things are no big deal – unless you’re going to stand there and judge the other person. Don’t expect everyone to share your morality, even if your morality happens to be popular right now.
Tracer, I don’t think Mrs. Clinton would agree that the Lewinsky thing was “no big deal.” Nor, for that matter, would Mr. Clinton or he wouldn’t have repeatedly denied it.
Besides, it’s not MY morality. It’s the morality of every person who vows to another to be faithful. If you don’t intend to be faithful, then don’t promise that you will be.
There is good evidence that Mr. Clinton had been philandering long before his presidency, and that Mrs. Clinton knew about it. Not that she “approved”, per se, but she didn’t dis-approve. She knew her husband was a promiscuous ol’ horndog, and put up with it because, hey, it’s kind of a kick to be a governor’s wife. (And an even bigger kick to be the First Lady.) They’d both given up on any promises they’d made to be “faithful” to one another a long time before that cute White House intern came along.
Except as a public front.
And they kept up that damn public front of monogamy because there are so f*cking many voters out there who give more of a rat’s ass about their president’s sex life than they do about whether he’s a good Chief Executive. Do you think that vote of impeachment had anything to do with Obstruction of Justice or Lying Under Oath? Nonsense. The House voted to impeach Clinton because he had sex. And the sooner the Congressmen got that scandal resolved, the sooner they could get back to diddling their “research assistants”.
None of this would have made any difference – and Lewinsky wouldn’t be though nearly so badly of – if the damn Victorian Puritanical morality shackling this country would just Go Away.
“Love 'em, fear 'em, and leave 'em alone.” – Dr. Spockiavelli