I don’t understand this. Why on earth is shaving a prereq. for wearing shorts? I HATE shaving my legs. I have extremely light, fine hair. No one could tell unless they had their eyes six inches away from my legs. In the right lighting. So why on earth do I have to submit myself to bloody, sharp-edged torture every day in order to wear shorts? Is it going to make you sick to your stomach that I have nearly invisible hair on my legs? And even if someone has dark hair, it seems kind of silly. What the heck is so offensive about leg hair?
I really have to go with personal hygene. When it is obvious that someone has gone over 48 hours without a shower, or brushing their teeth, or even–at least–washing their hands, well, that’s just plain disgusting.
Other than that, I could probably overlook just about any other physical trait.
No, I have to echo QuickSilver: Take a fucking bath. I don’t care WHY you have funk, you DO and you should address it rather than make excuses for it. I don’t care if you suck down a pound of garlic a day… take a good bath and that will deal with most of it. If not, I think that is just you being a lazy shit or not having a clue to how bad you really smell.
And floss your fucking teeth! You can brush until your gums bleed but that funk is still sitting there, festering, between your teeth. Floss it out! I makes your whole mouth reek!
And for all that is sacred and holy, wipe your fucking ass until all the poo is gone! I guess that is hard for some folks but shit (no pun) I can’t believe it’s that difficult to wipe your own ass!
Aaaack! I can’t say that I’ve ever run into this one. How foul.
I have to say that I second(or third or fifth) the notion that people who don’t bathe is pretty revolting. Nothing like getting a whiff of rank BO to ruin your day. Especially if it’s a woman who’s stinking!
I’m going to take a hammering on this one, but women who show cleavage when they have breasts like beaver tails… not attractive. Please don’t hate me, I’m a product of the media.
In general, teeth. Especially if you have one going bad somewhere in there. Please, for the love of God, get that fixed. No one wants to see your rotting stump in there. It’s like walking around with a gangrenous limb.
Cigarette breath. Ruins a kiss like nothing else. I remember kissing someone many, many, years ago, in my VW and thinking, “geez, I hope this is a short kiss, 'cause it’s nasty!” I don’t think this is a good thing to be thinking while kissing your SO.
That and those dragon-lady fingernails. EW.
Smell from not washing enough runs right there at the top. Not physically fit, runs number two, especially if they are a doctor or some fitness trainer.
I just really can’t find myself attracted to decapitated guys.
The whole “bloody stump where their head should be” look turns me off—call me prejudiced! The spurting blood gets on my blouse, and it’s so hard to kiss them without coming away looking like I’m wearing too much lipstick.
LOL, Eve. Obviously, stinky people, wherever it comes from, are a turnoff.
One thing that my husband does that really grosses me out is hawking up phlegm in the shower in the morning, or even occasionally while walking down the street or something (at least he doesn’t spit on the sidewalk, I guess). Okay, I understand, I have allergies, too. But when I hear you expectorating phlegm every morning like a cat with terminal hairballs, please understand that French kissing you is not on the top of my list! I have tried to convey this concept, but he just either doesn’t get it, or can’t stop doing it.
At least he took action when I pointed out his nose hair problem. Anything else I can deal with.
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Maybe I’m wrong on this one, but I think Nacho4Sara was referring specificly to stubble. And I have to agree. Hairy legs are ok, hairy arm pits are ok, stubbly legs and arm pits are gross. For me, I can’t understand why anyone wouldn’t like more tattoos.
And I don’t know where ya’ll live but I can honestly say I have never seen someone with really bad teeth. Ok, sometimes when I travel, but never in my hometown. The worst are crazy eyes. You know the ones the speed freaks have. Just scares me off.
True physical traits are not going to turn me off. People’s bodies don’t always look like or do what we might want them to–for me, at least, that’s not a basis on which to write people off.
But there is a voluntary trait that bothers the hell out of me–women who slather on ridiculous amonts of makeup. I have a cousin who used to do this–she caked it on to the point I thought she looked like a clown. I will find a woman who is homely (admittedly a subjective opinion) and wearing little or no makeup more attractive that one who is pretty (again, subjectively speaking) but looks like a victim of a Max Factor attack.
(I realize we are all products of our culture to an extent, and that the cosmetics companies have been very successful in convincing American women (the only ones I can speak of from personal knowledge) that looking too much like themselves will cause men to run, children to faint, and cattle to stampede. But please…if you use a trowel to put it on, you’re using too much.)
For me? Ego. Nothing like meeting a nice woman who can talk about herself for hours, drops names like they are teflon coated, and in general looks like several TV shows you’ve seen.
I’d have to agree with many others and say bad teeth is a big turn-off. If you take take care of something you see in the mirror everyday, I’d hate to think of what else is being neglected.
I also can’t stand exceptionally thin women, especially if they are that thin on purpose. Calista Flokhart(sp?) is the first glaring example that comes to mind as an example. Bony is not sexy.
As a female, I think there are a few things that make guys look unattractive:
Hairy bodies- yuck! OK, a little hair is all right, but for god’s sake, do something about your behinds and your backs. I hate thinking a guy is wearing a sweater when he doesn’t have his shirt on! Also, I have actually seen guys who have hair on their chests just around the nipples. And although I know it’s natural, it just plain looks nasty.:eek:
Guys who shave their heads bald, on purpose- What is the point of this? If you were meant to have hair, keep it, don’t get rid of it. This just looks stupid.:rolleyes:
And last of all, although it isn’t exactly a physical trait,
3. Guys who wear pants three or more sizes too big- Now, did I actually say I wanted to look at what type of underwear you’re wearing?!? Wear clothes that are the right size, or for the sake of your fellow human being, at least wear a belt to keep your pants above your rear end.
Now for unattractive female traits-
This has got to be the teeth thing- As other people have said, you don’t have to have perfect teeth. Just keep them brushed and in fairly good condition. It throws your whole face out of whack if your teeth are bad.
Fake breasts that are too big for your body- OK, I know that most guys love breasts, no matter whether they’re real or not. But honestly, if you’re going to get a boob job, at least make sure they look somewhat real and not in bad taste. You shouldn’t look like you have basketballs on your chest.
AND NUMBER 3. Cleanliness- Take a bath at least every day, no exceptions or excuses for this one. The world will thank you for it.
