I’ve been waiting for a “Happy Mother’s Day” thread. That would be something new and different. After all, I slaved and sacrificed all those years and none of you even noticed.
In fairness, only one woman on earth deserves such a card.
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They could make a card that goes ‘‘Thank you for not aborting me’’. That would be minimalist, sorta.
My mother loved me. I miss her. I realize that all my siblings might not feel as loved as I did because, by the time Mom had reached the point of giving birth to her 10th child, she was slightly less delighted. Glad that the RC church no longer has a stranglehold on women’s uteruses.
My mother did a lot for me. Taught me to stand on my own. Taught me to call for fairness from her instead of imbuing me with her own faults and failures. Not that I got what I wanted. She was often in denial about how she treated me compared to my brothers.
Though there are many, many issues I have had with her. I am grateful that she tried to be as fair as she could, in her own way.
Life isn’t fair. Make of it what you can. I’m grateful to be here. Thanks for that Mom, and for actually painting my bedroom lime green instead of the lilac color you wanted. It was exciting to be heard.
Great post. One shouldnt be cold hearted. We learn some good things even from all people.
Another great post.
Better to not let things get you down.
I’m a mother and I’m not big on Mother’s Day. I tell my family that I don’t care about this holiday, so don’t feel obligated to make a big deal about it and I especially don’t want the tradition gifts of flowers and candy.
We usually do go out to lunch or dinner (same place every year because it is central to several moms in the family) but only because the other mothers in the family enjoy it.
The best Mother’s Day gift I can think of giving in my own particular case is not actually hiring a hit man to gun her down should I ever learn she’s still alive.
I’m a mom of four little ones, and Mother’s Day bums me out. Every other mom I know is getting pampered and lavished with love and attention today.
Me? Up at 7 to keep the kids quiet so husband can sleep. Made my own breakfast, no card, no gift. Odds are good that I will not even get so much as a “Happy Mother’s Day” unless I remind my family what day it is. And who wants to beg? Not feeling the love at all over here.
This is why I should stay away from Facebook. :-/
I’m sorry Sarabellum. Happy Mother’s Day from me at least! 
The wee ones were forced on you at gunpoint?
Hopefully you will feel differently about the day when your kids are older and are bending over backwards to buy the best Mother’s Day present. The “little one” stage doesn’t last forever. (Though, it sure would have been nice for the father to remember.)
I think the feelings of disappointment–which are completely understandable, by the way–is why I don’t like holidays such as this one. A person could show his love and devotion to his mother 364 days of the year. But let him forget Mother’s Day, or let him bring his mother something that’s not quite as nice as what the neighbor got from her son, and suddenly someone is the “bad” guy. This doesn’t make sense to me.
I’m not saying children should take their parents for granted, and I do think having a special day can prevent this from happening. But I see it as yet another way for people to put loved ones on the guilt-trip train for no good reason.
It probably shouldn’t have bothered me enough to post about it in this thread, and it was off-topic anyway. My apologies.
It’s a clear case of “Facebook Envy” I’m ashamed to admit. My husband worked late, and as a rule does not make a to-do about Mother’s day.
Also, I am throwing a party tonight and judging from people’s Facebook entries, regarding their plans to take their Mom to dinner, driving long distance to visit family, etc., I feel pretty sure that several of those who RSVPd are not actually coming. Which means I’ll be cooking too much food, just in case. Grr.
I’m feeling grumpy today all around.
Don’t be ashamed that you’re perfectly human.
It’s like birthdays. Just because it happens annually doesn’t mean it can’t sometimes suck for you. You will have other, better days ahead. I promise.
Yeah,I’m one of those people who doesn’t especially enjoy Mother’s Day anymore. Mother’s Day was really hard for me last year, because it was the first year without my mogther (she left the family.) This year I was going to give her something, but didn’t have the time, so maybe next week.
My mother-in-law gets a thank you card for raising a good man from a child all on her own. I seriously love this woman; she raised four boys after her husband died in 1963. She is tough as nails, expects proper manners (poor you if you don’t have any!), and is softer than marshmallows when you finally land on her good side. There is nothing that I wouldn’t do for her.
The egg donor gets a blank card. The day she is kind to someone without an ulterior motive will be the day I eat a sock with hollandaise.
I think you could make your own Mother’s Day- help the kids make cards and little craft gifts to give you and maybe bake muffins for a “special breakfast”. As they get older, they’ll get the idea of celebrating a holiday for someone else (you can do this for your birthday as well, if your family doesn’t celebrate it either) and teach them to remember you. If your husband doesn’t model the behavior you like, you can teach them!
It’ll be fun, too- watching them get excited about giving you gifts (even if it’s not a surprise), and watching them put effort into a little project just for you.
I’m not sure how old your kids are, but I bet you could get this to work.
PS. Happy Mother’s Day!