Mundane whine

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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My 84-yr-old dad lives with us. Recently he’s had some medical issues, and I have reservations about leaving him alone.

But I want to go on vacation! My husband is going to go to Daytona Beach (his hometown) this Wednesday, because his brother is in hospice, and his health is failing rapidly. I don’t begrudge the trip, really, but we’ve been on vacation there so many times, and I am a little jealous. He won’t be spending ALL his time with his brother (who he’s not really all that close with.) He needs to help his sister deal with the financial stuff, and see about Brother’s trailer and what to do with it.

But he will be partying with his nephews, too. In Daytona Beach!

Ok - this is a pitiful little whine, isn’t it?

It’s not that I want to go on this trip, it’s that I can’t take a real vacation anymore. My brother lives in Denver. I’m tempted to ask him to come down here for a week while we go on vacation. There is no other family to ask. I suppose I could look into a visiting nurse-type person, but I know that will make Dad feel like a burden.

I’ve just begun feeling like this, and I’m ashamed of myself.

Ok - whine over. I’m grateful I still have my Daddy with me. :slight_smile:

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You shouldn’t at all feel guilty for wanting a break! Absolutely call your brother. It’s obviously his turn.

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Oooh, can I sneak in and commiserate? My mother-in-law lives with us, and we’re at the point where we have to either put her in a skilled nursing facility or pay someone to stay with her. This is fine at least in principle - it’s going to cost us a lot more to go on vacation, I can live with that. The problem for me is that I don’t feel right leaving her for Thanksgiving (which is often also her birthday) or Christmas, so I don’t get to see my family at the holidays. Poor little me.

That said, my niece is getting married next month, so I get to go (alone, of course) and party with my niece and nephews - woohoo!