It’s not so bewildering when you look at their post history.
Now that’s gay!
Crystal clear that you think the “actual problem” is that the kid has 2 moms. Let’s just agree to disagree.
If masturbation is gay, then what does that say about the % of the population that’s gay?
I thought masturbation was about working on a cure for cancer. Damn, things change too fast.
Horseshit. I made no such claim, and I reject your attempt to misrepresent my postings.
I have no idea what trouble-shooting technique YOU used to convince YOURSELF that tapu’s teenager forgot Mother’s Day because he has two moms. YOU arrived at that conclusion on YOUR own. YOU obviously didn’t use my suggestions. And I’m OK with that.
I suggest that it’s a more effective trouble-shooting technique to include ALL of the possible issues that might affect the teenager. Do not avoid, or pre-judge, any possible issue. Include them all, and only then, sift them out one-by-one.
“When you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth.”
-Arthur Conan Doyle
If there is evidence that a teenager hasn’t been able to tell his parents what issues THE TEENAGER is having problems with, (evidence such as the parent still not being able to determine the problem), I believe it’s best to seek counseling or professional help. But that’s me. That’s my opinion. I have absolutely no idea what you are thinking.
Well again then, you are being naive. Dont you remember a few years the thing about “Asian Tiger Mom’s”? if you dontLINK. Its not the first thing I would bring up (that would be rude) but its not something to be totally ignored either.
Now I agree with you there are some (almost) constants (Link - The Mom Song) like the fact that teens tend to rebel against their parents, kids will refuse to eat their vegetables, parents will have to nag the kids to practice piano, AND
… boys tend to forget holidays.
Truth is ANY and all ways you can put together a family presents its own unique set of issues. The parents background, personality, looks, financial situation, health, heck you name it every situation is going to have its own particular set of obstacles … as well as positives.
You really need to come over here
Rather than waste time refuting you two, I will just shamelessly steal Miller’s response:
“Don’t worry about it. The kid is fine. Your making a fairly standard mistake in assuming that your personal prejudices are the default. You don’t like gay people, so in your head, the idea of being raised by two gay people seems like something really terrible. But one of the advantages of being raised by gay parents is that you generally don’t develop the sort of base bigotry you’re currently displaying. Really, the only drawback intrinsic to having gay parents is having to deal with people like you. So, if you’re genuinely concerned about the kid’s welfare, the absolutely best thing you could do is shut the hell up and never open your pie-hole on the topic again.”
Horseshit. I made no such claim, and I reject your attempt to misrepresent my postings.
“Shamelessly” is the exact word I would use to describe your effort to misrepresent my posts.
doorhinge, I think the problem is that you keep saying all possibilities need to be investigated, and it sounds as though you’re including in those “all possibilities” the idea that the kid is angry about having two moms as his parents. Is that an accurate summary of what you’re saying?
If so, that’s bullshit, unless you’re also including possibilities like he’s secretly a CIA agent who is too busy with his covert activities to buy Mother’s Day cards. There’s no reason to consider possibilities that are blatantly implausible.
And the idea that he’s upset over having two moms and that’s why he’s not buying cards is blatantly implausible. That’s why folks are reacting strongly to what you’re saying.
Wait, are we applying Sherlock Holmes quotations to parenting issues?
I think that’s fine as long as they’re in fifth grade or younger.
No, but you have no way of knowing that.
If you are, I can know with certainty that you’re talking about fifth graders or younger.
Hahahaha. You can ignore any, and all, possibilities. Your choice. But remember, the OP didn’t know what was wrong, which is why she was seeking internet help. If you don’t know what’s wrong, it’s poor trouble-shooting technique to vehemently reject, or ignore, some possible explanations.
All possibilities need to be investigated. This isn’t rocket surgery. To prejudge that something is blatantly implausible before you’ve investigated the possibility that it could somehow be associated with the problem only suggests that you have already closed your mind to that possibility. And hindered your trouble-shooting capabilities.
Reacting strongly is one thing. Repeatedly lying about my position is something else.
I’m not lying about your position. It really is that stupid and incoherent.
Now, before you respond, I’d like you to investigate some possibilities:
-What if what I just wrote is actually in another language and it’s very complimentary? Investigate each language separately.
-What if you just imagined that I wrote those words, due to a heretofore undiagnosed mental illness you’re suffering from? I’d recommend getting the opinions of two psychiatrists and, just in case, a neurologist.
-What if I’m actually agreeing with you according to a system of formal logic you’ve not studied? You’ll want to familiarize yourself with all systems of formal logic to be sure.
-What if the idea of investigating ALL possibilities really is dumb, and it’s not something you do any more than anyone else does? The nice thing about this one is if it’s true you don’t have to do any of the others. Oops, maybe I should have put it first. Sorry!
The boy does not have two mothers; he has a mother and a step-mother. Any other assertion is inaccurate (I wouldn’t dare call it “propaganda” because we all saw how that went over.) Forcing a child to call a step-mother, “mom”, is often met with mixed results, regardless of the parents’ sexual preference. If lesbian parents are “exactly the same” as heterosexual ones, I would expect the OP to know this.
The boy has a father, whom he has never met. The reason the boy has a mother, a step-mother, and no relationship with his father is because that is the situation that suited his lesbian mother. He was never consulted. (As an aside, I can assure you that I would have never preferred my-mother’s-lesbian-lover as a parent over my father, but maybe I’m just a bigot who thinks fathers have value. We all know that, really, two lesbians are “EXACTLY THE SAME” as a mother and father.)
Now the boy is acting “passive aggressive,” according to the OP, on Mother’s Day. And she hasn’t the foggiest idea why. But what she DOES KNOW is that it has nothing to do with her being a lesbian, even though the boy’s entire family structure is a direct result of her lesbianism.
Yeah, let’s just all go with that; only a bigot would suggest otherwise.
A step mother is a woman who married your father. Don’t go redefining words to complain about others redefining words. That’s stupid.
After a post full of so much blithering absurdity, it’s nice that you got a single small thing right.